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1. What can I do to improve the situation?
Thus you demonstrate your willingness to partner to solve the problem and channel it into constructive proposals.
2. I am ready to listen to all your claims carefully, but let us first pause for a few minutes and see something funny (favorite comedy videos on youtube).
This break will help you relieve tension and to revisit the painful question in a better mood. Another useful to move the discussion to another day, when the dust settles.
3. Help me understand why you think and what your conclusions are based.
This simple phrase shows your love of peace, and a sincere desire to understand the point of view of the partner. During the conflict, people often do not hear each other, and sometimes talk about things completely opposite.
4. You are attractive, even when you swear
It may sound like a desire to evade discussion of the conflict, but it will make you both smile and feel sympathy for each other, which ultimately will help find the right solution to the conflict. Do not forget that you are looking for a solution to the problem, and do not aspire to the breakdown of relationships.
5. How do you think this situation is better or worse than the earthquake that we experienced in the past year?
Reminder serious test, which you overcome together, will allow you to remember that you - the team and together can overcome any trial.
6. Let's stop swearing now.
This phrase demonstrates your understanding of the relationship is more important than finding the truth. There are cases where it is not necessary to find out who is right and who is wrong. It is more important to save the relationship.
7. I think a cup of tea will help us find the right solution quickly.
Perhaps you are on the limit of what tired or just hungry. Favorite drink can help relieve the stress and discuss the problem in a peaceful way.
Remember that in any situation there is an exit. And, as a rule, not one. Think, look and you will find a solution that satisfies both of you. Do it with love and attention to the opposite point of view. Talk about your feelings, do not blame, do not insult each other, and offer constructive solutions.
Careful attention to a loved one - it's magic!