Full control over emotions - is not this a welcome habit for most people? Stojko withstand grin fate, test mental anguish, not to bend and not break under any blows of fate and the people. Being that kind invincible samurai with impenetrable face.
Without emotions to live very profitable:
It is possible to deal calmly: "It's nothing personal, it's just business, baby."
Stick to logic, and organize your life perfectly. Doing what is important, it is necessary and right. Enrolling in the right college, marry the right person, there is work that pays well.
Only then why there is this yearning inside? a void that does not fill ...
This feeling of insecurity, deprived and enduring hunger.
Price insensitivity is high - half-life. As if suddenly disappeared smells and sounds. There used to be, but now is not. You can live. But something is not always enough. As if some kind of an important part of the person stopped.
The decision comes not feel at different ages.
For someone in his childhood. Stop feeling freeze - becomes for the child only way to survive. To experienced by mad with pain and terror, he "fastens the volume" of feelings, and so it leaves the sensor in the same position for life. For safety.
As an adult, a person can not get satisfaction, nothing it does not satisfy. He's always looking for something. Once you understand that looking and can not find the lost part of himself, begins to collect the crumbs of the ability to enjoy, to experience pleasure, something to really want to.
The decision to stifle feelings to push all his experience to hell, is taken into adulthood - as a reaction to lived through the pain, loss, disappointment. "I never!" Do not fall in love, I will not let anyone into your soul, do not trust, I will not be such an idiot. All thanks, too painful. I know that there are bad and will not go there anymore.
And life begins in the suit, in the armor of their own protection, without allowing yourself to feel anything. With great emptiness inside.
Many of us have learned a variety of tricks to not enter the zone of feeling, they do not live with full force:
Quickly get distracted and start to do something, no matter what.
I do not understand what is happening and allow yourself to go through it, and dispel the excitement through action.
Quickly switch to something else, and go into the hustle and bustle. This makes it possible not to meet with strong emotions and do not address important issues for themselves.
The Company believes that "to be busy - the best cure for depression."
Many people fall into a state similar to drug addiction from his own works, unconsciously trying to ensure that they do not have time for "useless thoughts."
Drink, eat, smoke.
Quickly remove the tension, not even realizing that caused the alarm, which rose for a second before burning desire something a shove - pour, push or breathe.
All forms of addictions - alcoholism, smoking and overeating - it's the usual protection mechanisms of emotions that a person chooses not to recognize and not live. Ways of acting out of emotions.
Buy something. "Swallow" another "the right thing".
Switch off at least for a time, his emotional hunger and "feed" the alarm.
To have sex.
In this case, his own body or the body of a partner is perceived as an object for manipulation. The role of the other person as an individual in this process is very low - it is simply used as a drug for sedation.
Find the person to whom it would be possible to bind.
As a child looking for a mom that will take care of it and fill it with love, and many people are looking for the maternal or paternal object outside. Like chicks in the nest, their mouths are always open, and they are waiting for the constant help, support and participate in their fate. And there is often heard disappointment and accusations of "what he or she does not care about me, do not appreciate and do not like."
React shame, fear, guilt over aggression.
Aggressive flash helps to let off steam, to relieve tension. But the problem for the solution of which is the voltage has risen, not solved. All the energy goes into the "puff".
As the body temperature catches up to defeat malicious microbes and psyche raises voltage to solve the problem facing the person. But instead of using energy to understanding and solution of the problem, bring down the temperature, and the steam produced in anywhere. Until the new attack.
The habit of not fully aware of feelings leads to the fact that a person does not recognize mental threat.
It simply increases the need for medicines, food, cigarettes, alcohol.
It so happens that even hear his own anxiety people can not. They think that everything is fine, you just want to drink and eat, and own disturbing thoughts and feelings they do not hear. And why do anything to change the situation, they can not.
Our emotions - is not only a reaction to the mind but also the body's reaction. any emotion accompanied by certain sensations in the body.
The human body is seriously included in the stay of each emotion.
Drowning out the psyche, we force the body to express those emotions for two. Thus is formed a psychosomatic symptom.
if a person can not afford to live the emotions with the help of the mind, he will have to live with them through the body.
All psychosomatic symptoms - is antiquated, "not permitted myself" emotions.
Multiple repetition, they form a psychosomatic disease.
Doctors isolated list purely psychosomatic diseases, the so-called "Chicago's seven diseases": hypertension, coronary heart disease, bronchial asthma, gastric ulcer and duodenal ulcer, ulcerative colitis, hyperthyroidism, diabetes mellitus.
These are diseases in which the psychosomatic factor is leading. But more and more therapists are inclined to believe that the decision to hurt or not hurt any disease remains with the man himself.
But, sometimes, psychological defense against emotion so great that a person does not allow even the possibility of the body to be ill - somehow live repressed feelings.
And then, as in the melting pot, the lid of which tighten the screws, there is an explosion.
Sudden death from strokes, heart attacks, or from that this cancer is detected at the last stage, in seemingly healthy and young people - always a shock.
The price becomes a senseless life.
Somehow we have to create a sense. And this feature of our ability, and not separate from us. That is our nature.
As long as we feel we are alive.