Keep your cool at all costs
Your cool equals power.
You experience it a lot.
When you try to argue with people. Have an intellectual debate.
Your argument differs from their point of view. They get angry. They start to shout. They start to throw insults around. At that point, you won.
They ran out of arguments.
And became illogical.
There are countless of such cases.
In class. At work. In relationships.
It happens.
Whenever our emotions get fired up, they cloud our judgement.
We make worse decisions. Maybe get angry. Do wrong to other people.
We might not mean it. We still love our conversationalist. Hopefully.
But there’s something that happens when we lose control.
Don’t lose control.
The truly powerful are always in control. Of their emotions. The situation.
They stay calm no matter what.
This is what allows them to keep making great decisions.
Once you lost your temper and went over-board, there’s no going back.
Once you revealed the angry side, the mad man – no turning around. People will be able to easily manipulate you. They will do so to get what they want. They might lose the respect they had for you if it’s a professional environment.
You need to have your intelligence high. Ready to think. Understand what opposing points of views are about.
Even if you’re a tolerant person this can happen to you.
You might be upset because of something completely different. But there’s still this one thing you have to get done.
Don’t make important decisions when angry.
Relax. Breathe. And take reasonable action.
I also wouldn’t recommend invoking other people’s emotions. Be it for pure fun or because it’s necessary.
You should be able to get what you need playing the fair game. The long term game. You don’t want enemies.