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Everywhere in the modern society, there are agitations for the right of females. Situations like this almost make it seem like no one cares about the males at all. In situations of peril, the females are expected to be protected, while the males face the danger.
From birth, a boy is programmed to bend to the wishes of other people with the belief that they are actually his own decisions. He is thought to sacrifice everything for the people in his life.
A male child is taught to hide his emotions, no matter what he is going through. To do otherwise would make the society regard him as a sissy. When a boy gets hurt and expresses his pain, people make fun of him, telling him to be a man. He is just a little child for Christ’s sake and there is a limit as to the level of pain he can endure before bursting out. He is treated like he is supposed to be a piece of rock that is impervious to pain.
Except very few who are actually bold enough to stand up for themselves, few men ever actually live out their dreams in life. Most are forced to live out the lives they couldn’t live in their own sons and the cycle continues.
In Nigeria, a boy might nurse ambitions to be a photographer but his parents who have spent a huge amount of money sending him through school are disgusted at the idea and instead make him pursue a career of their own choosing and there is nothing he can do about it. A boy can’t nurse the ambitions of being a hairstylist without getting a tale of being told just how stupid he is for even having such a thought.
Here in Nigeria, when your parents send you to school as a boy, it is with the aim of turning you into a doctor, lawyer, engineer, pilot, accountant, banker or an architect. The day you voice out your desire to be something else, your parents will bring up a theory which either proves that you are a bastard or you were swapped for their actual child at the hospital where you were born. Of course, not everyone can pursue the careers stated above, however most of males are actually programmed to take up one of these so called “choice careers” and if they can’t, they have to pursue other careers with links to the “choice careers”.
So, you believe that males have everything handed to them on a golden platter, right? Examine the case of a hypothetical female and male. If the female doesn’t take her education seriously or if she doesn’t have a nice looking bank account statement, there is still a high chance of her getting married to some well to do man, who will have to ensure a comfortable life for her and everything goes well. On the other hand, if the male does not take his education seriously or doesn’t have a nice looking bank account statement, and is fortunate to get married to a well to do lady, the society tags such a man as a gold-digger. At this point, I begin to wonder if the burdens that have been placed on both genders are actually imposed by some supernatural force or if it we are just the one’s who have imposed such burdens upon ourselves.
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Alright, so everyone complains about domestic abuse and the main issue is always about how the men are abusing their partners. Now, in a relationship, any partner stands just as much chance of being abused as the other partner. However, all people make a fuss about is how men are abusing their wives or girlfriends. Few people ever complain about the men who are silently battling an abusive relationship. As a result of he society's expectations, few men are actually bold enough to come out and say that they are being abused by their wives or girlfriends and even the few who are bold enough to complain about the situation are mocked. This causes most men to just stay in relationships, where they are abused both physically and emotionally, until they eventually break down.
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In cases of divorce, where there is battle over child custody, reports show that in 5 out of 6 cases, the females mostly win the custody of the children. This is almost like saying that men men are bad parents. Of course, nobody addresses this, the men are just stones after all and they shouldn't complain.
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I am not trying to negate the rights of females in any way. Males in this period are definitely not enduring the agony our great grandmothers went through. However, people should just recognize that males have problems which they face, just as females also do and the lack of compassion for what men go through makes it almost seem like men are not getting the attention they deserve. We need to stop being hypocritical about "female equality", which is gradually tipping towards "female supremacy".
