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Before I start, I need to make a confession and an apology. The confession is that I'm not a good person. At least, not according to the general definition of good people. I've manipulated and helped in manipulating several people into doing what they wouldn't have otherwise done. And as for the apology, I might be using a few vulgar words and also be saying some things that some people might find offensive. So, if you are get offended easily and are averse to hearing the truth, I think you should stop reading now.
If a friend of mine wants something, I'm the sort of person to go out of my way in ensuring that what he wants comes into fruition. While doing all this, I have done several crazy things and one of such things is deceiving various ladies into believing that a friend of mine loves them. I've knelt down, cried, concocted crazy tales of pity, loaned out my apartment and done several silly things into ensuring that my friend gets a piece of a cookie jar they desire. I don't think I'm exactly remorseful about that, after all, brothers defend brothers.
While gunning for a cookie jar for my homie, making the lady believe that he is in love with her is one of the surest ways to getting to that cookie jar, other than spending an outrageous amount of money. To everyone I have helped, I pray that the lord grants them the strength to cope when they come to the realization that they've been used.
I have a question for the ladies. Must you be someone's girlfriend? Everyone has sexual urges and are willing to act on their urges. However, do you have to be someone's girlfriend to satisfy your urges? If you van't stay celibate, then fuck who you want until you get married. Having sex with most ladies is more like applying for a job at a firm now. You have to fulfil one of the following criteria; love her, take her out or be in love with her.
And then, there are some silly girls thinking that they are someone's property. While a guy is thinking of how to secure his future and get the fancy things in life, you'll be referring to yourself as his property. It is not uncommon to see some ladies adding Miss, Mz, Queen, etc to a poor boy's name, neglecting their father's while they are even yet to get married. I wonder what such ladies would call themselves after breaking up. If he hasn't put a ring on it, let the boy's name rest.
I wonder why ladies who can't stay celibate attach the "he must be my boyfriend before I have sex with him. I guess it makes them feel less of a slut. But for the religious ones among you, do you think that God cares about the person you are having premarital sex with? All that's being recorded is "she fornicated". When you pray, do you say "God forgive me because I fornicated with my boyfriend"?
There are two types of ladies, those who stay celibate until marriage and those who don't. And then there is a whole pack of horny guys out there. The average guy is willing to do anything to satisfy his urge and doesn't necessarily believe that he has to have a girlfriend to do it. In fact, he believes that variety is the spice of life.
However, most ladies who are willing to have sex attach the "he must be my boyfriend" condition. The question now is can you really blame him for saying he loves you when he doesn't? Hell no. He'll say anything just to get you to give up your "nappy pouch". You're going around with the title of "Mz Clinton", whereas, Clinton is onlywith you for the sex.
Forgive me if I seem annoying. Dear ladies, if you are a sexual being, then accept yourself for who you are. There's no two ways around it. Most of the time, the terms and conditions you put up is only to prevent getting lashed by the society. You feel that they won't call you a slut if you're only having sex with your boyfriend. Well, let's do some maths...
You had six boyfriends last year and dated each one for an average of two months. While dating them, you had sex consistently, yeah? However, the next lady who doesn't attach terms and conditions and you call a slut was in a "Friends With Benefit" relationship with just two guys all year.
I'm curious, who should we be asking "Sister, how is business?"?
All that I have been trying to say is that it's either you abstain from sex or you don't. If you choose not to abstain, then there is no need to invite hurt and heart break for fear of being judged. Everyone has their own short comings, nobody is perfect.