People would think two months is enough to forget about who has been a part of your life for a short while, You wanted to believe – You hoped it was true. You were doing fine -- or you thought you are, it’s hard to lift yourself up when the person who used to help you feel better is the person hurting you. It doesn't make it easier that people around are asking you about it, honestly letting go of a bad relationship can be really completed. It’s like losing a part of yourself every time it happens.
STAGE 1 : DENIAL
This is the time where you would say no and refuse to accept that the relationship is over. The part where you still believe and hope that the person who broke your heart would be the same person that would mend it. You funnel every last hope that the relationship can still be saved, you try to postpone your need to grieve that it has ended
But it’s okay, there is nothing wrong with hoping but sometimes you got to wake up and realize which relationships are real enough , pretending and denying the inevitable wouldn’t help you
STAGE 2 : ANGER
Your anger can manifest in different ways – it could be with the person who has shattered your heart, it could be with the people that are around you or the situations/people that was associated with your break up. There are times when blame God as well, on WHY did he let you met this person just for you to get hurt.
At this phase it would feel like you’re about to burst and tell everyone how stupid you have been or how an ass your ex has been. There is nothing wrong with being angry, in fact I say that you need it! It can be your motivation force. However at this stage you should also be careful not to be consumed by this feeling, you’d need to realize as well that in order for a relationship to work it must be done by two people who’d want to make it work. Understand that you have some faults too.
STAGE 3 : BARGAINING
At this stage you’re willing to do anything to avoid that closure. You’ll try to promise yourself that you can be a better partner. That you’re willing to change all the flaws that you realize you have during your relationship. This is the stage of “WHAT IFS” or “IF ONLY I COULD”. The stage that you’d pray and wish that you could have a do over.
Please know and understand that in every break up you’d need to feel the pain -- avoiding it can only hurt yourself more during this process
STAGE 4 :DEPRESSION#
This could be the hardest stage; this is pretty much similar to anger. However during this stage it can surface different types of emotions. This is the stage where you lose your faith – with the people around you but mostly with your SELF. That maybe just maybe you deserve to feel this way – the stage where everything feels “hopeless”
STAGE 5 : ACCEPTANCE#
If got your self through those 4 stages, give your self a tap in the back. I sure know that it wasn’t an easy ride. FINALLY! This is the stage where you make peace with your self. Where you find that you are worth a thousand times than what you think you did. This is the stage where you know that you are a strong independent person that you’ll do perfectly fine. The phase where you realize that moving on is not really about forgetting what happened but accepting and forgiving your person who has hurt you and forgiving yourself for breaking down. This is the phase where you stand stronger and better.
I know it has been a tough journey – we’ve been there but don’t lose hope with love. Just because you got hurt once/twice/trice that you’ll curse it. Remember that there is always a rainbow after the rain – that a storm couldn’t last forever.