Of course not! The basic idea of a relationship is primarily that of trust. When you tie the knot with someone you love, you ultimately have their trust and commitment. Although these aspects need to naturally occur like any physical desire, some people think ‘owing’ someone something in a relationship is what’s required. Whereas, when you truly want a relationship with someone, you don’t let the idea of obligation peek through your mind and life. While expecting good from your partner is absolutely mandatory, even when the quote ‘Expectations always hurt’ is in the air, it is also totally ok to expect your partner to be trustworthy. But when you let the wind of doubt flow through your relationship, it can cause mayhem and mutilate the sensitivity of a relationship you and your partner have.
Before you even think about doubting your partner in any way, you should keep the following consequences in mind
You Destroy Your Peace of Mind
The first obvious step when you start having doubts is that actually effects your entire soul and body, makes you exhausted and obliterates your peace of mind. Love is frustrating at times, exhilarating, beautiful yet agonizing from time to time. And it actually entails navigating shrill turns, steep hills and other dreadful dark pit holes. If you think love is all joys, laughter and jumping around a beautiful spring garden picking out your favorite kind of cheerfulness, then you haven’t understood it at all. Before you jump to any conclusion and destroy your inner peace, give at least 10 excuses to yourself for trusting your partner.
You Create an Air of Agony
Yes, you are to be blamed for creating the air between you and your partner, bitter. The rule of love is to never mistrust. Even if your partner is acting a little fidgety, fretful and squirmy towards a certain situation that naturally enhances the doubts in you, you ought to have a relationship where you both can frankly and forthrightly share everything. So, ask before assuming. Trust before doubting. Moreover, love without fear.
You Become Dissatisfied with the Intimacy Shared
They say trust takes years to build and a minute to break. It’s like a paper, once it’s crumpled, no matter how much you iron it, won’t be reformed back to its original shape.
When you start having qualms, you apparently mistrust your partner and it only makes it hard for you both to share the affection and intimacy you might have been having for months or years now. It only welcomes the ‘third party’ to involve in your affairs. Remember, when the relationship is obvious or two, and the third is involved, it seldom elucidates the situation rather worsens it.
You Yourself Become Mistrustful
Yes, you read that right. You become mistrustful only because you’re keeping a secret from your partner. The key to happiness and bliss in a relationship is keeping no secrets. You either doubt your partner or you don’t. There is never an in-between. If you doubt them but never express, you’re keeping a secret. But if you can’t express then you’d rather stay quiet and think positive, let the doubts fly far away from you.
The Bond Weakens
Say you’re the happiest couple, people around you tell you when you go out together. Your friends consider you lucky. Your family adores you both. But what’s all that commendations and praises if you have doubts in your mind for your partner? It only makes you live a lie. The bond between you and your partner weakens and outsiders seem to either disappear from the case or they indirectly enjoy it. Only because the doubts you have in your mind can sometimes be easily shown from your facial expressions or your behavior. Your partner may seem to ignore it and later forget but the people around you will not. Nor will you be ever comfortable knowing your bond that was once as strong as a rock, is weakening.
Communication Hitches and Glitches
When your bond weakens with your partner because of doubts, eventually, there will be hitches and glitches in communication. You will be in a state of discomfort and agitation which will cause distress for your partner as well. You won’t be able to enjoy each and everything together like before nor will you be able to share everything with them as the biggest thing in a relationship is sharing. Whether food, his jacket, gossip or real talk and doubts.
Remember it is ok to tell your partner about your doubts so you both can save up several minutes or hours and even days of the state of anguish that is going to be triggered if you don’t share your qualms. Rather than keeping it in your mind and heart, worrying about it alone, share with your partner so they can allay you that you are wrong and you can go back to leading a happy, blissful and blessed life together.