It’s not always easy to tell the difference between love and lust, especially if you get the mixed feelings often. Sometimes, you have to ask yourself this question: is it really love or just the routine desire for the sexual intimacy?
However, when the flip side of this confusion gives butterflies in your stomach, know that you finally have fallen into someone’s heart and soul rather body. Know that love and lust cannot go together. Since this is a situation all of you can go through, I have listed a few signs you can check whenever you feel confused. They sure will guide you through.
So here’s how to tell if you are in love or lust.
This, of course is undeniably the best rule to measure your feelings. Love makes you want to share your whole life with your beloved. If you are telling him how your day at work was, what your best friend bought for your birthday, or as less significant as getting a new pair of socks, youare love.
However, on the flip side of this, if all you talk to him about is his body, or simply praise him all the time of how good he is, you might want to double check why exactly you are wasting your time with him.
It really matters that in what context you think of him. Who do you think of whenever you get a promotion, you have your birthday ahead or you are planning to go watch a baseball match? If it’s him, besides your best friends of course, congratulations you are in love with his heart not his body.On the contrary, if nothing above happens, you are after him for lust.
No girl would want to introduce a guy to their parents who have a chance of giving creepy feelings to her. If you really are in love with someone, want to settle down with him, like in a legitimate way, the first thing you would do is arrange a family meeting with him. Rather, if you are hiding your relationship with your family, know that you have not only an illegitimate one, but you also don’t want to talk to yourself about it.
We all can relate to this. Just like men’s body language changes with the context, women’s do too. If you are giving everyone around you uncomfortable feels by constantly doing clingy stuff in a much unsophisticated way, you are surely not in love. What people in love do is, consider their and everyone around’s privacy first like real family people.
Since girls know they will be judged mingling outside in public with a guy who clearly has a lust for you all over his face, they try to keep this a secret. Women who are in love do not hesitate to show their affection for their spouses in public, rather they are proud of such display. Their men carry a certain air of grace on their face. A mutual understanding and respect can be seen among such couples.
It’s not a hard nut to crack, all you have to see is if you or your partner is taking interest in your life. Are you aware of what his hobbies, ambitions are? Do you give an ear to whatever he narrates you about his life?
If you do motivate him to live his ambitions, achieve something higher or encourage him in any way he needs, you are not after him for lust rather you are pretty serious about him.
For sure we can agree that getting over possessiveness can ruin relationships rather nurture them. You can’t really make someone your prisoners in love, you have to let the other experience their freedom. However, a bit of possessiveness is the fundamental key to love. If you truly love someone, you would not want them to go away or leave you. Instead, you would always want to keep them to yourself and have kids with.
If all of the above mentioned points are related to you, you have a lot to learn from. However, only these are not like some hard and fast rules to keep a check and balance. There could be a lot more varying according to the individual situation.
Know that, lust does not have a good end. It will not only wreck your emotional health but your physical well-being too. It’s rather healthier to stay single and wait for the right guy you can marry!