A pretty tough question, right? It's easy to say that we should forgive those who have committed mistakes on us for our own peace of mind. But at the same time, we should also remember that we need to feel the pain and anger before we can allow ourselves to forgive. We can't just give a half-baked forgiveness because that's not right. That's unfair to both parties. Because when you forgive someone, that means you choose to leave the past behind and you're willing to start anew with that person. But you can't do that if his mistakes still haunts you.
You have to take everything slowly. Eventually, you'd have to forgive that person to give yourself a peace of mind. You can't allow pain and anger linger in your heart for a very long time. But there is no rush when it comes to forgiving someone. Take your time. Do it at your own pace. Allow yourself some time to process everything that happened and then heal the wounds it created. When that time comes, I think you can finally try to forgive slowly. Yes, slowly. You don't have a deadline.
You have to make sure that when you say, "I forgive you", you really mean it and that you know what that phrase means. But that doesn't always end there. Can you still trust that person like before? Can you really give your relationship another shot? To say that you were heartbroken when your partner cheated on you was a huge understatement. You got hurt big time, you cried, felt miserable and unloved. So, can you still forgive him after everything he did? The answer might be yes. But the real question is: can you give him another chance?
You should remember that forgiving doesn't always mean giving that person another chance. It's not a package deal. You can forgive an ex-partner without jumping back to the same relationship he ruined. Forgive because you deserve to live peacefully and happily. Forgive because you have to set yourself free from all the negativities and dramas. But remember that it is still your decision. If you think that you can still try to fix your relationship and you can work on the "trust issues" that would surely come after a cheating incident, then by all means, give it another try.
You deserve to be loved that's why you should know your worth. Don't settle for less. Don't hold on to a toxic relationship. Don't let anyone cheat on you and get away with it. You should know when to use the EXIT door when you've already exhausted your patience. Remember that better things are coming, so why linger on the bad things?