“Happiness is the art of never holding in your mind the memory of any unpleasant thing that has passed.” - Unknown
HAPPINESS IS.... (up to) YOU!
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Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties. - Helen Keller
You create and determine your own levels of happiness! Nobody else… just YOU!
There was a time in my life that I had completely forgotten this and had to rediscover my own value, worth and importance as an individual and human being. At the time of my divorce, I thought I would never survive… I felt suffocated and the concept of life in any other alternate manner (even though the one I was in was enormously unhealthy) seemed impossible to grasp…
But it wasn’t! And afforded a little bit of time for reflection and healing, I Reached that space once more and it was the most incredibly liberating feeling!
It was a HUGE life lesson, one which I will never forget, but cannot honestly say that I have not wavered from it from time to time...
When you have been broken down to nothing, it can be all too easy to step back into negative old habits of giving too much of yourself too easily, being walked all over, forgetting your worth and a multitude of others… This is no doubt natural, especially if you have lived in a state of “worthlessness” for any great length of time…
“You need to lose yourself and disappear in the depths of the repetitions? Find a coast and watch the repetitive waves! Soon your mind vanishes away and when your mind disappears you disappear!” ― Mehmet Murat ildan
The main thing however, is that you SEE it! ACKNOWLEDGE what is happening, what you are allowing, STOP YOURSELF and then start walking in the opposite direction…. FAST!
Don't ever let others permanently stray you, detour you, blindfold you or numb you!
It is one thing to take a slight detour, but it is another thing entirely… to lose your path completely… forgetting yourself along the way… BUT (and yes, its a BIIIIG BUT as always lol) the most important thing to remember, is that each and every time this happens, you learn a little bit more about your(TRUE)self... what your REAL value is, where your boundaries lie and where you are heading, moving forward in your own life!
And THAT is what matters!
Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain... To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices - today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it. - Kevyn Aucoin
Something I used to do with most of my posts, and have omitted of late... is a "blog appropriate song" to end ;) (well, appropriate to the way I understand things anyway haha...)
Until next time...
Much Love from Cape Town, South Africa xxx
