I had an argument with someone I love the other day. We are in a Long Distance Relationship and we are definitely facing its advantages and disadvantages. We were just arguing over small stuff that unexpectedly turned out to be big which almost brought up in a break-up. Fortunately, we immediately solved the problem and manage to settle things out. But he really pinpointed that I over think about things and it is not healthy in a relationship to overthink even simple things, especially that we are far from each other. By that, I came to a point of evaluating myself if I am really an over thinker and what should I do to overcome it. I’ve been reading articles on the internet that discuss the signs of an overthinker and try to evaluate myself using those signs. So help me evaluate myself and I would really appreciate it if you leave suggestions on how do I overcome it if I am really an overthinker.

It is definitely me; it would really take me more than an hour of lying in bed before I totally fall asleep. I always think of what happened during that day and worry about what could happen tomorrow. I always think of solutions or ways that could help me solve my problems.

Yes. I am actually full of fears. I am afraid of a lot of things. I am afraid of what might happen tomorrow. I am afraid that I might not have a job in the future to provide for my son. I am afraid of what I would do in the future to be successful. I am afraid to commit another mistake. I am afraid to fail again and be a failure forever.

I always analyze everything too much and end up assuming things. I always assume things in a negative perspective that’s why it’s always giving me anxiety.

I am. I always think of everything as if it is all related to me. I always presume things that it is always connected to me. Whenever things or unexpected things happen like mistakes or failures, I always say that it is because of me. And even if it’s not about me, I always presume that it is about me and think that maybe I did a mistake again.

Yes. I have a lot of regrets in life. And if only I could turn back time I would undo many decisions and actions in life but never will I undo having my son in my life even at an early age. I am always afraid to commit the same mistake that’s why I am more careful now.

Sadly, I have all of those signs that I saw on the internet which describes an overthinker person. Maybe I am really an overthinker. Maybe everything that I have been through turned me into this. But I want to change and get rid of this attitude. It is not healthy in a relationship and it is not also healthy even if you’re single. It will always affect your perspective on life and how you would make decisions in life. It will always cause you anxiety and fear of everything that you are facing. But how do I get rid of it? How long would it take me to get rid of it? TO whom would I seek help? What would the process that I will undergo to become more positive in life? I really hope you could help me deal with it. I would appreciate if you could leave a suggestion or advice that I could do to get rid of my over thinking about life.