When something unpleasant happens, before blaming the situation and also others, stop for a while . Is it possible for our own attitudes or behaviors that still trigger unsuccessfulness? Perhaps it is bad habits or lack of discipline that makes us fail. Perhaps because we are lazy to improve ourselves, so there is just a lack of success. If there are people who intend to tackle, we may be angry but not to degrade our own dignity. Nature is too smart and feels that other people are not as smart or as powerful as you, until they are not open to criticism, is a character that is also not good.
Reply to people who hurt with the same cunning? Do not want to introspect on errors or deficiencies then boast to many people if you have been tyrannized? Forging an alliance to hate people you think have hurt? All I can say is, it's a REFUGEE action.