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I think anger is a natural response to certain situations. So in that sense, I do believe that it is a part of everyone’s personality.
However, I tend to feel that unbridled anger is unhealthy and a symptom of deeper emotional troubles.
While I’m nowhere near perfect I’m dealing with my anger, I do have a few tactics I use to help me stay in control of it.
1. Physical activity
I find that going for a walk helps to calm me down and think about the situation more objectively. It gives me some fresh air and some physical space from whatever is causing the issue, and that helps.
2. Playing Devil’s Advocate (I think I’m using that phrase correctly...?)
Sometimes I try to intentionally defend the other person’s point of view or their actions. I don’t ever actually condone them, but this exercise forces me to consider their situation and can help to offer an explanation for their behavior, if not an excuse for it.
**3. Apologizing
This mostly goes for interpersonal issues that cause anger, but taking a moment to eat some humble pie and apologize helps me calm down. I won’t ever apologize for things I didn’t do, but I always try to apologize for anything I did to contribute to the situation, or that may have been perceived incorrectly.
There’s probably a few other things that I use, but that’s what comes to mind at the moment.
Hope this helps!