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There are a lot of anger management skills. One way to control anger is never to take the first action that comes when you're angry.
That action, most times, always turn out to be a regrettable one. When you're terribly angered, take a deep breath. In some cases, that might just be all you need to do.
Take a deep breath. Breathe through your thoughts, take a deep breath again. And then erase the first thought of action. Or think over it again but this time more carefully.
Anger has resulted in murder, damage, divorce, accident, domestic violence, civil war, community clash, World War, unnecessary flagging and downvote, treacherous betrayal, fight etc.
Anger has denied many of opportunities and positions. Anger has killed so many quality relationships and ended many friendships. Anger has separated families.
Anger prevented Moses from entering the long promised land. Anger has stopped any from reaching their destinies.
The unintended consequences of anger is far worse than we can ever imagine. All humans are vulnerable to anger. It is normal to get angry once in a while but what you do when you're angry is even more important.
It takes courage, understanding and maturity to handle anger. Once you allow anger direct your actions, reactions and responses, you lose yourself to it. You become enslaved by it.
The human nature is flawed. It takes maturity, patience and self denial to deal with anger perfectly. Another thing that will stand in your way while trying to deal with anger is your ego. Your ego can become a stumbling block. Sometimes, you have to kill your pride just so you don't fall on the other person as you may wish to.
In dealing with anger, there are times you'll have to stoop low just to conquer it. Others may see it as weakness, but trust me it's not. There's so much wisdom involved in being able to manage anger successfully than the unintended consequences that can emanate from flaring up with it.
Know what can calm when you are angry and always tend to do such when you find yourself in the situation. Is it talking to a friend or loved one, or playing games. You could watch a movie to let go the tension or do a particular sports. You could write or listen to music. Whatever thing that you think can calm you and take your mind away from the anger will be very helpful.
Another way to resolve anger is to resort to dialogue. Communication helps, it can go a long way. Talk about the issue. Discuss it. Discuss how to resolve it and be committed towards that.
However, the mindset and perception one develops towards handling anger is more important. It is the foundation towards solving any anger problem. You have to understand first that no one has the power to control your emotions except you allow them.
You have to know that whatever issue or problem that led to your anger is not permanent but temporary. You have to know that just like any challenge, anger will always come and pass away except you choose to dwell on it.
You have to know that you'll always have need to forgive people in the future and always, so when they get you angry it doesn't become so difficult to do so.
When you develop the right positive mindset and perception about anger and how to handle anger, life will become easier to live.
Imagine a world where most people have this understanding, there will be no need for nations to go to war, we'll save the world a whole lot of drama. The world would become a much better place. A world filled with people with good anger management skills.
Thank you for reading.