Humans are social beings which is why we love to make friends, nurture relationships, socialize, and interact with one another. Life, indeed, is better with friends, considering the economic hardships that permeate the world at all levels.
With friends, going through the toughness and harshness of life becomes more comfortable.
But in reality, you cannot make friends with everyone. Even among the few that tag themselves as your friends, there are bound to be a few who are exude toxic vibes around all the time. These toxic friends are usually full of jealousy, bad-tempered, and conceited to a certain extent.
In this article, we will be highlighting ten differences between good friends and fake friends.
Real friends
They are quick to celebrate your achievements, your successes and very happy for you.
They are empathetic and caring, always appreciating your looks or appearance.
These set of people value your friendship and never take it for granted. They give you the respect you deserve, in your presence or behind your back.
At times, you may want to spend time alone with yourself, your loved ones or with your Creator. These friends acknowledge your ‘alone time’ and respect that immensely.
They are excellent purveyors of useful information and very willing to exchange opinions with you. They don’t care whether or not they win an argument. They are okay with your opinion as long as you accept theirs.
They stay in touch at all times, calling you up every other day to check up on you and to find out how you are faring in the journey of life. They contact you, at times, because they miss your company.
Everyone is unique; we cannot all be the same. That is why we have different temperaments. Friends in this category accept you the way you are, understand your type of person and are willing to accommodate you without making any attempts to bend your will to theirs.
They know that you have other friends beside them and are willing to accept them without judging you in any way.
They are good at keeping secrets, and you can be assured that your secrets are safe with them.
Whatever you tell them, they accept it as the gospel truth. They have no reason to doubt whatever you say because they believe in you and trust you with their lives.
Fake friends
You can recognize these easily because they will be unreasonably jealous of any achievement or success you attain in life. Most try to hide it or will attempt to downplay your accomplishments
They look down their long noses at you and criticize you mercilessly. They believe they are excellent judges of anything from fashion to food and nutrition.
They are bad-tempered, grumpy, flair up at the slightest provocation.
These friends don’t even care about anything called ‘alone time.’ They come around and try to take up all of your time without being considerate. If you decide to tell them to give you some time alone, they get annoyed and call you a selfish person.
They always want to lord it over you by winning every argument they have with you. On the flip side, they could be good lawyers because try as you might, you will never win any argument with them.
Any friend that only calls you at periods when they need help, and then vamoose once the assistance is rendered just for them to return for another favor is a toxic friend.
They are all out to change you, not caring about your temperament or anything you stand for or believe in. As long as their selfish ego is satisfied, they are okay with it.
They, on the other hand, don’t like any other person you move with except themselves. They are quick to point out faults in one person or the other in your circle of friends or acquaintances.
Most of the time, they are loud-mouthed and say anything without caring whose ox is gored. They do not keep secrets but reveal them quickly as soon as you offend them.
They are always in doubt of whatever you say, and are fond of looking for loopholes where stories don’t correlate.
