Many people have heard the term emotional intelligence, which is not only important in love and work, but also in our growing up.
Emotional intelligence corresponds to IQ, and IQ determines the bottom line of life.
A person can have no emotional intelligence, but have an IQ,
You can go through your own efforts, even if you just take an art school,
You can eat your fill. This is your next line.
What is the launch of life?
It is the height you can achieve through your own efforts in your life.
But going online is not an IQ decision, because we are born to be human,
You have to deal with people, you have to deal with people,
If you don't have enough emotional intelligence, you can't get online.
So what is emotional intelligence?
"Emotional intelligence, not indeed invisible, but based on his/her emotional awareness, control of their emotions, want to response to others, learn to apply emotion, through proper behavior for their own purposes, the so-called value maximization."
Give me a couple of questions. Do you think you've seen this in your life?
- Can you accurately perceive other people's emotions?
In our lives, there are always some people around us who like to say "I am a straight person".
Then you don't think about the consequences, and there are a lot of things you don't think about.
You're not talking straight, you're not talking about your brain.
2.Can you read the rejection?
A simple example, you are a guest in an unfamiliar house, to dinner,
The host said, or you can eat here, and don't go away.
Are you eating here or not? Then someone with a low eq might say, "my host is so sincere, just eat here."
If the host really wanted to leave a guest, he would say directly: I must eat it at noon, I have already bought it.
It doesn't add a "or".
3.Can you understand what other people say?
The bull and the bull speak directly, often in a roundabout way, and don't want to expose their bottom line.
They're going to look through each other's eyes, and his body language says,
Then you can test his bottom line.
Many times, some people don't erase their immediate purpose.
We need to hear a paragraph from someone else.
4.Can you control your emotions well?
When we are faced with some emotional thing, and we can easily hysterical, flustered, we fight, it is easy to swear when we swear to fight, we will find that we lost a lot of things, so we will regret. But you must remember, not all swear fight is unable to control his emotions, such as I see a person has been upset for a long time, today I hit him, but afterwards, I have no regret, this is called your emotions to accomplish some objective. It's not that emotional intelligence is low, it's not that you can't control yourself, for example, boys who are rejected by girls, often have this problem,
Or during the date, the girl stood up, unable to control her feelings of loss, exasperated to say a girl, the next time nature, you will not be out. At this time we should express our gentleman's side, but also express our attitude. Not a bit of temper, but also not. This is called the snub response. We should have a little bit of anger, cold too: yeah, ok. Then, when the girl comes to you for an apology, give yourself a step and give her a step. In this way, he was not in a hurry, he showed the gentlemanly manner, and he expressed his attitude, which is not a diaosi who can fly the pigeon.
5.Do you become overly dependent on others and lose yourself?
Too many people who lack emotional education, talk about a relationship, know a woman, feel that she will not marry in this life, she will not live without her. Then control, tangle, check the phone, fight, break up. But this is not love, true love it is not because of oneself lonely, afraid of a person, find a person who accompanies him. True love is not without you, but with you better. If you take her as the world, you will lose everything.
6.Are you too sensitive to be hurt?
To put it bluntly, it is the so-called glass heart, which is like a hedgehog, curling itself up,
When people are close to you, you will think that others are hurting you and you will hurt others.
Emotional intelligence is definitely something to learn. You can read more books about it, expand your social circle, and have more complicated experiences.
