I developed a pet-theory a number of years ago to explain why it is that women should increasingly desire hurt and humiliation in the context of a relationship.
It is a reaction against the unnatural-dynamics that an uncontested militant Feminist-ideology has cultivated over the past 40 years.
See, human beings require a means of atonement in order to evolve along more progressive and enlightening trajectories. At-One-ment is a means of reconnecting fragmented aspects of the psyche and moving towards integration and wholeness.
Yet, by robbing women of the capacity for culpability and accountability, as Feminism has succeeded in doing by rendering men society’s official scapegpoats we also rob them of the means to atone for transgressions.
We effectively teach that man is the cause of all woes; and that woman is without blame or sin.
What we have in operation is an incredibly simplistic dualism:
Man=Bad/violent/impure/evil/oppressor/active agent.
Woman= Good/peacable/pure/innocent/oppressed/passive-victim.
So accustomed have we become to ascribing all negative effects to males that not only are we unable to see the evil that women do, we are unable to even acknowledge that women exert influence.
We delete the unparalleled power a mother has in shaping her progeny’s future-life whilst in her womb; and we are blind to how female actions and behaviours direct the course of male endeavours.
Woman has internalised a model of self-righteousness and inherent nobility in comparison with men that she now finds it a struggle to ever admit wrongdoing. And so without guilt or self-recrimination there can be no growth or maturity.
The psyche needs compensate for a failure to cultivate the powers of introspection, and so the woman finds herself desiring S&M sex-acts, and/or attracting abusive partners and situations.
In this way the Ego experiences the necessary humiliation, hurt and degradation.