If this world is shit, I need to be able to readily process it for it to be something of value. That means no matter what happens, I may choose the best option, but I must at some point 'take it all into me' and do the best. Taking it all in implies severing all emotional ties to everything I perceive, choosing the painful choice of perceiving everything as clear as I can, in the knowledge that this pain is what will wake me to move into equilibrium. Process is not only a process but how and what you process through your physical senses every day, on a daily basis. The general observation I noted between examples of this processing is it's better to unclench the hands, let go, relax, and look farther down the line, it's a relaxation deliberate movement while facing all the troubles. And a slowing down into relaxation with breathing, but not completely still and unmoving, you have to move, you have to make a decisions. More often as the problem pans out you'll see your neighbours tensing up furrowing the eyebrows, speeding up in breathing until it's half breathing and chalky, interrupted breaths. That has a limit which is when you snap. Slowing down and moving with the breathing without berating yourself for making trouble is more vast. More vast because you'll see wider and deeper and farther into the future if you slow down and relax while seeing more and more and more.
The examples I look up to have become this slowing down and opening up. For example, no matter what kind of crazy driver cuts four lanes, my example takes it all in and for his own safety, and mine, he's already positioned himself behind the cars, he just puts the brake softly but decisively. No drama, or snarky comment or anything. This example once was held hostage for ransom. He slowed down, opened up, and began talking to his kidnapper. That opened up eventually to his release. Eagerly identifying the other's wants, needs, and desires, sharing his own stories of his experience, this example is adept at telling stories. Speaking of which, he lives in Shenzhen, in a city where the people regularly cheat each other of money, the drivers are scary in their unpredictable behaviour, with his own financial troubles, and interpersonal things to deal with. I could say he got the short stick of everything, ending up in two divorces, losing his house, unable to find stable work, some aspects of his physical experiences aren't optimized I would say. But I observe his attitude to everything and it's just great. He really keeps living sparingly with no hint of weakness to temptation, and he has a constructive attitude to everything. He talks great, so he makes great business agreements, but he's a bit weak in doing things, doing the maintenance work or doing the work he does rather poorly. But his fluency in Japanese, Cantonese, and Mandarin that's native in all three, he has a market or there are people that are attracted to him.