It seems to be the cool thing these days, To play victim. To argue with people on who has it "worse." Really?
Why is it so cool to be damaged these days?
I get it, We all go through hardships. I've gone through a lot of brutal experiences myself. But I don't let it stop me from working towards the things that I want from life.
I don't let it bring me down. And I don't "brag" about my bad life experiences as if they were something to be proud of.
Everyone Struggles, Not Just You!
Everyone has had SOMETHING bad happen to them. Small things, Big things. All of our lives suck if you think about it.
To think that you deserve more, And are better than everyone else because your life is hard. That is messed up.
I love the quote: "Life Isn't Fair, Make It Fair!"
We can make things fair. The universe doesn't give a crap about us! Nothing is "planned" or set up, so everyone gets equal opportunities. But many of us were born in places where we can make it fair.
Everyone can spend all day complaining if they wanted to. I'm sure many very successful people have something they could complain about if they wanted to.
Sometimes people are in the right place at the right time, they win the "lottery, " or they get hit by a car. It doesn't mean that everyone is "out to get you" if you are getting the short end of the stick.
It Distracts us from Solving problems
When we focus on everything that is wrong, We sometimes fail to see the solution right in front of our faces, But when we keep our head up and are actively looking for opportunities to change our lives, Things begin to change.
Lately, I've been beating myself up because I feel like I'm not independent enough. Then I realized that maybe taking the plunge and pruchasing a car, May help with those feelings. So Now I'm saving for a car. It was that easy. Purchasing a car was something I forgot about and kept over looking, But because I was looking for the opportunity to make the change, I found it.
Be Grateful
When you want more, You can ask for it. Many people will give you what you want when you simply ask. Then it's also important to be grateful for the things that you do have. We have so much in our lives; We often forget how lucky we are. Most of us get to eat every day; We have hobbies and fun stuff we get to do. Be thankful for all the little things. These days it seems like we demand everything from everyone else, But we aren't willing to provide value in return. Try and think about what you want, Then think about what you can do to provide value so you can get what you want. Everything is given and take. If you aren't willing to give, You can't expect to take.
People Don't want to help you
Another thing I keep seeing these days, Is all those defeated, Angry people who are feeling sorry for themselves often talk about how no one is willing to help them.
Are you more likely to help someone who will then help themselves? Or help someone who will constantly need help indefinitely?
People like to help others especially when they will work their butt off to then help themselves. When you help people who are just struggling, But you can help them onto their feet so they can further change their own life, You are more likely to feel you made a difference, Rather than someone who you helped, Who ends up staying at rock bottom indefinitely.
When people feel like they've made a difference. They are more likely to contribute more.
So What the Hell?!
For those of you playing the sympathy card, Why? Sure you may get some attention for it. But in the long run, what do you hope to gain from it? When you work your butt off, but occasionally need help for whatever reason. People will likely help you. But when you sit and pout and expect people to feel sorry for you. You are scaring away a lot of high-quality people out there.
We all have problems, and we all struggle. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. But don't' allow yourself to become a victim. You are better than that!
