I decided to make a part 2 because this post is long. Again, People expect things to be so perfect, But rarely are things super easy and simple. They are often confusing and complex.
You Aren't Guaranteed Anything
Most of the time with our long-term goals, We assume that we do this thing, Then that thing. Then we stick our hand out expecting our reward.
Yeah doesn't work that way.
Sometimes yeah, it does. So I'm not saying you shouldn't look up the "steps" to your goal, you certainly should. But things in life rarely work out how they "should." So don't give up once you see things going in the "wrong" direction.
I had to learn this the hard way with my last relationship. I dated him six years. Then just magically assumed we'd get married.
I invested six years Therefore my reward, Was an engagement and marriage.
Right? That's how it works?
Unfortunately, I failed to see the signs, That it would never go in that direction. And I quickly started to realize. That just because I "worked hard" on something, And put in "My time" didn't guarantee me anything.
It's the same thing with a job promotion.
If management is continuously dangling that carrot in front of your face, And you work your butt off, But see absolutely no movement. There's a chance that you are in the wrong company, Or Have the wrong supervisor. No amount of "steps" will get you to what you want. At that point, you may have to find an alternative route. Whether it's a new job, New work area, Or heck transfer to the other location. You may have to make magic happen to get what you want. Even then, That promotion still won't be 100% Guaranteed.
Be resourceful
Because nothing is guaranteed. It's great to have a backup plan. What will you do if things don't work out in your favor?
Earlier this year my e-commerce store came crashing down, I was still self-employed. I had to be flexible. So I switched to my Shirt store full time, And Steemit helped give me the time I needed to build it up quickly.
If it wasn't for my resourcefulness. I would have HAD TO get a job to pay my bills. But because I found other ways to make money, I have CHOICES.
Be Happy No Matter What
HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE
HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE
HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE
How do I drill that into your head?
Seriously!
There is nothing wrong with being upset, sad or even angry.
There is nothing wrong with the occasional bad day.
But ultimately. You dictate your overall happiness level!
Every day for the rest of your life, You can find something to be unhappy about. You can find something to complain about. You can find something to ruin your day.
And guess what? The Opposite is also true.
Every day you can find something to be grateful for, You can find something to smile about, and you can find SOMETHING that will make today one of your happier days.
It's all a matter of perspective.
Even if you were to accomplish all of your goals in life today, You might not live a perfectly happy life, Unless you change your mindset.
Your life will never be perfect, And Don't expect it to be.