We often overvalue the opinion of others. To the extreme, Where It becomes unhealthy.
We Can't Change What They Think Of Us!
We often are concerned about what people are thinking of us because we think we can change what they are thinking. We can somehow argue it, or we can somehow prove them wrong. We hope they will think differently about us.
Often when people feel a certain way about us, it won't change. A lot of the time these people are very negative, and I want to think poorly of you either way. Sometimes these are just people we shouldn't be spending any time around anyways. So don't even bother trying to change the way they think about you. Just be you!
It's A Waste Of Time
Again, Being worried about what people think of about you is just a waste of time. Because they won't change their opinion if they have decided that that's what they're going to think of you no matter what.
You Fail To Execute
When we are overwhelmed with wonder, On what others are feeling about us. We are less likely to execute on our goals. This only allows us to be brought down by those people that don't like us. And it makes it harder for us to get what we want. It can be hard not to be curious. And only slows you down from getting what you want out of life.
I love the quote that what people think of you as none of your business. Because it's mostly true. It doesn't matter When people think poorly of us. It often doesn't affect us directly. Sometimes when I start thinking like this, I stop myself for a second. And think "She doesn't like me, how does this hurt my life or my opportunities?" That's when I realize it's doing nothing to me. And by worrying about it. I'm only hurting myself.
We All Want To Be Liked
We all want to be liked by others, But the problem is. No matter how kind, Or amazing you are. There will always be someone out there who doesn't like you. There will always be someone who woke up today and decided they don't like you no matter what you do. And you shouldn't waste your valuable time and resources on those people. Practice ignoring it, And don't give them the satisfaction that they are successfully dragging you down.
