Some time ago I decided to do the following experiment: accept all offers and suggestions from the people around me for spending the free time I get. At least for a month. I set such a deadline in the beginning.
This idea came when I realized I was in uniformity and routine suppressed me on many levels. I constantly felt apathy about most things I do. Everything seemed boring, stupid, and meaningless. I rarely went out. At one point, I realized that if that went on, I would never feel better, but I would just sink more and more. That's why I decided to force myself. Forcing myself to start doing things. Let's say yes.
Today I'm another man. Here's what happened:
I started traveling more
Before I deliberately decided to say "yes" to things, I could hardly go on spontaneous trips. Even at close distances. Abe, as a whole, I always laughed or I invented some reason why "I can not now" - the weather is bad, I have another "floating" arrangement, I'm not walking on a mountain now ... Oh, at sea? Well, at sea ...
So, until at some point, I did not realize that I was in a boring, gray, and emptied everyday life where nothing ever happened. Why? Because I did not allow him. For two months I have seen places in Bulgaria that I have not even suspected they exist and almost without any effort. I just said "yes" to any suggestions or ideas someone around me gave.
I met interesting people
Before I lived with the idea that you can not build friendships after the university. That once you've been 25 years old, if you manage to keep in good contact with people at all, well again. Because "everyone has their own lives, families, and priorities." That is so, but everything else is a prejudice.
I understand that the world is full of wonderful people that you deserve to meet and that can happen at any stage of your life and even become a friend of them. That you learn life all the time, and you learn best from others, which can only be achieved if you are open to them. Only if you tell them yes.
I had a lot of fun
I understand that the reason for boredom and for being a "prosaic" is often due to the conscious refusal to jump into the unknown. It's a little frightening, maybe the most frightening thing in the world, actually. You can not expect something different to happen to you if you always do the same.
Exiting the comfort zone is one of the few real remedies for the soul. Everyone passes the vicious circle of "isolation-apathy-isolation" at least once in their lives, but fun and smiles are sometimes at hand, as long as you "bit" a little and say yes.
I was not afraid of failures, which helped me
Before, I was afraid to start new things, largely out of fear of failing. When I started to say "yes" to life, I started to fail. And I realized it was far from scary. On the contrary. Failure is the only way to succeed. Everyone fails and nobody achieves anything from the first time just like that.
But what really can stop you is fear. Fear of failure and fear in general. You do not want to be afraid - that's a great success. The very truth is this.
I grew more like a human
Taking more risks, I began to learn more about myself. When you put yourself in strange situations, you see strangers from yourself. If I had just stayed in my comfort zone, I would die of boredom in my own company. With the same problems and the same suffering. I found new hobbies, riding boats and kayaks, riding a wheel in strange terrains, learning to cook much better than before, and feeling grown up.
I started saying yes to more and more things
Something like a domino effect. Stating yes to some things has led to yes to other things. I started with "yes" on a trip, then with new friends and finally with all sorts of new things.
I tried some food for the first time that I would not have tasted before. I thought I did not like seafood, but it turned out to be my favorite. I jogged and surfed. I realized that I had become a more open, wider and more understanding world and the people of the past. I am grateful for this.
I became happier
Everything listed so far made me a happier person. More often than not, I did a lot of things, I grew up and learned unexpected things before.
Now, this is my new life - better, fuller and bolder than before. I worry less about everything because I learned to accept the facts as they are and to live more at the moment than in the past or the future.
I will continue to accept life with all its challenges and opportunities because I believe he is for it - to live.
Much love - Krisii
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