Coincidence is God's way of remaining anonymous. Albert Einstein
Have you ever wondered if it was accidental that you were born on that specific place, on that specific time? Is it a coincidence that you have these problems, which you have at this moment in life? These are some of the questions I often ask myself. Does it happen to you that you receive an accidental call from someone you just thought of? Or do you get a call from the person you do not even think about at the most disagreeable moment?
Mostly I see coincidences in relationships. Both with friends and partners. They are mostly related to people I'm emotionally tied in that moment or people with whom I will be tied in the future.
My last relationship started accidentally, with lots of coincidences. For a while, my friend worked as a DJ in one club. Since it was a rock club, I didn't had a problem spending my weekends there. Over time, I noticed that one girl, with a friend, often looks at me. So she once sent the friend to order a song from the band Danzig, "Mother". Since they were one of my favorite bands, I decided to pay a drink for the girls. Somehow we started to talk, as much as this is possible in a loud rock club. We talked about music mostly and so I figured out we had a similar taste for music. Later I asked her to add me to her friends' list on Facebook and so we started our communication for the next days. In the end, it turned out, beware of the coincidence that long ago, she played in the sandbox at the school playground while I and my "gang" burned the first cigarettes and drank the first beer at the same time there. Another coincidence, their dog then bite my sister's leg somewhere the same time. It was not that terrible, but it was shocking for her. I never knew that that girl even existed. I was 12 years older. She was a girl from my old hood, that I left years ago. There were many strange coincidences in our relationship. But, as it all started coincidentally, so it ended up coincidentally. She coincidentally came across someone she thought was better than me, so we split. A man would say, so much coincidence, almost fate, but that was not it. Not even close.
Since I've been the last 25 years constantly in some few years relationships with short interruptions, most of which 6 months, I decided to take a breath. I had to resist the coincidences that started bringing some new people into my life at that time. I decided that I will not let myself be dragged into a new relationship just because of some strong feelings. There must be more. I don't know what exactly, but it has to be. I just hope that I will recognize it if it happens. Anyway, I was never the one who would knowingly and willingly make the first step with girls. But there would always be some funny or less funny coincidence that made this step happen. Once I stumbled as I walked with my sympathy in the city. I managed to keep up the balance with her help and in a strange way, in a second we found each other face to face. Then I made the first step instinctively. At that moment it seemed like a natural sequence of events. Had it not been my clumsiness, we might still be walking the city today, staring at shops and drinking coffee as good friends. Some years older.
So I decided to spend some time with myself. If it's more complicated with a partner, then without one, then a logical thinking tells me what to do. I said to myself, now it's just the "one shot only" left. I do not care about these 2-3 year relationships anymore, with too many emotions in the beginning, mostly sexual, in which both are burning out fast, ending with bitterness in both hearts. And there always remain that empty feeling and the perception that relationships are getting more and more difficult every time as years pass by. But it should be easy if it is a question of - love. Unconditional love.
So I'm mostly alone for the last 2 and a half years. At first, it was clumsy, empty, lonely, but as time passed, I felt better. I believed that time will make things better. And it did. I did not end up in a new relationship that would end in tragedy again. There were several potential candidates, but I simply did not had the will to "try again". Anyway, there was no vibe, no reason to connect, not even a similar path. So, I did not wanted to waste mine and their time again.
So now I enjoy the game of life, no struggle, relaxed, watching how the jigsaw progress to get together. Just a passive observer taking part in others lives with much less starting attachment. Trying to see thru and feel the person in any aspect of life that we share. I see how strange coincidences are coming back, knowing that it is a sign that everything is in the perfect order, however any situation ends.
One such coincidence happened to me just earlier today. Last night I published several posts on Facebook, including one picture (not even with myself on it). Tonight I dreamed that one person gave me a like on that picture. But in real life, that person doesn't give me likes so often. Not one of my friends that often likes my posts. In the morning I woke up and remembered that dream. I said, let's take a look, would be cool if there is the - like. I opened Facebook and of course, there was no like on that picture from that person. I went to the kitchen to fry my morning coffee and roll a cigarette and then I heard the notification from Facebook on my computer. I look at the monitor and saw that that person liked that very picture at that very moment.
So I believe that coincidences like such, do not exist. There is an invisible world intertwined with energy connections from all our astral bodies, where such things are not called coincidences, but a normal course of things. In this world, everything is linked to innumerable ties that result from different vibrations. Similar vibrations are associated with similar vibrations, instantaneous. All this is being copied to our material, slow pacing, visible world, and as we relax more and more and allow energy to lead us, so more and more coincidences begin to happen and more and more are being detected by us. It is necessary to relax and believe that everything is exactly the way it should be, regardless of the situation. There is one big world, and we all come from it and we all will go back to it. Death is just an illusion and not everybody understands that. Most of all, because they have learned us that death is something bad. That death is the end. That nothing is beyond it. But, that is just the great lie that we have been exposed to for many long years. Maybe a theme for another post.
That's just my humble opinion on the subject. I'm interested if you are experiencing similar things and what do you think about them? How do you act upon them?
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