Our Obsession with Physical Beauty and How it is Damaging.

There is nothing wrong with people taking care of themselves when it comes to physical fitness, skincare, fashion. Whatever. But the fact is many people are born unattractive by most people's standards and aside from tons of plastic surgery not much will change that and it is absolutely damaging as a society to view physical beauty as synonymous with worthiness.

As I have become less stereotypically pretty and guys stopped following me home cat-calling me reminding my that my body is pretty awesome I have also started to care more about things that matter. I have spent more time educating myself, learning skills, creating art, reading. I have started to reallocate my self-worth putting it into categories that matter more.

The problem with placing all our self worth on our looks is that they will inevitably fade.

I now value my brain and my creativity. I value my kindness and my relationships. I see myself as so much more than a pretty face on a good body. This is refreshing. This is a relief. We are all going to grow old and nobody is going to stay "hot" forever. I want to enjoy my middle age years. I want to cultivate a life where I still have value after my boobs start sagging and wrinkles form around my eyes from all the laughing I have been doing.

How to start putting less weight on your appearance.

Try to remember how much you have going for you in other departments. Are you a great friend? A good listener? Hilarious? Great at rock climbing? An amazing painter? A mathematician? The best chess player you know? Value THOSE things. Learn to put more weight onto those parts of you. We all get old, and how we look is not the most important part of our lives.