Most of us are not taught or encouraged to spend time alone, to do our own things, to ask for what we want. If you don't have friends, boyfriends, or relationships as an adult, then you're talking about something wrong.
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In addition, societal expectations are that we network, interact with others, work in teams, and behave politely and inclusively, not selfishly. When any of these expectations are applied as a one-size-fits-all approach to life without being explained to small children at an early age, many people form their own assumptions in response to those expectations. penetrated them.
As I mentioned in the opening paragraph, I can speak from experience because my parents taught me these expectations and life lessons as a child. For most of my adult life, I have subconsciously lived by these rules.
Like many clients I have spoken to, many of my life choices have been validated by these limiting assumptions, especially when it comes to building close relationships. rely on the verification and security found in the intimate company of people.
At some point in my adulthood, I found myself confused and debilitated by the anxiety and fear of judgment fueled by these misinformed beliefs. Perhaps it was the anxiety of "doing it alone" that prevented me from doing what I really wanted to do with my life or expressing what I really felt about situations and situations. It kept me from living the life I wanted to live, doing what I really wanted to do, and having truly authentic relationships. If any of this sounds like you, or related to any of the previous paragraphs, don't panic.