Please note, I am not trying to convince people having kids is the best for them or claiming that what I think is the right mindset to live a better life. My goal in this post is to describe my personal experience.
As I grew up I dreamed about traveling the world, finding love in the right guy, and have a stable job that would make possible a satisfactory life. However, kids never came to my mind when thinking about the future. Years past, and I had the opportunity to work as an Au pair in the United States. This opportunity, for many reasons, reaffirmed my “no kids” policy.
I believe there are people that grow knowing exactly what they want and nothing changes their goals later on in life. Whereas, there are others like me, that think that knows everything that will make them fulfilled but when life occurs and open its doors, perceptions, goals and priorities become different.
Turns out, at the end of my 20’s I could accomplished many of my objectives, but something didn't seem right. Traveling suddenly didn't feel as exciting as before; sometimes I had to motivate myself to pack, and I started to miss the comfort of my own bed.
I started working for a big company; applied things I learned in my studies. I could see myself getting farther in my career; but still, there was a feeling of emptiness.
My husband, always wanted kids, and we agreed to have 2 before getting married. I always thought I was going to change my mind with time. He waited so patiently, and even at a very crucial moment in our life where I ultimately decided not to have them, he said he was going to stay with me. I feel this statement was the outmost demonstration of love that he had for me since we met.
Thus, my husband, his love and my lack of truly life meaning made me in just one day change my mind about the subject.
Today, we have a healthy and beautiful kid and there is nothing I have done or will that will give me the kind of joy I have had since he was born.
He has made me a better person. Every morning, I wake up thinking what can I do in order to provide a decent life and to become a good example for him. Also, I do not know how did I ever compare to taking care of other kids to your own. It is indeed totally different, I celebrate and find happiness seeing him grow.
In addition, I truly believe he has deeply improved my spirituality. I trust that something so pure can just come from a source much more bigger and inexplicable than us and science.
Moreover, he has improve and reaffirmed my commitment to my marriage. I have seem a different face of my husband, that has just made me increase the love I feel for him. I also see a mix of us in my son, and this feeling of helping create a life that resembles both of us is an amazing sense of accomplishment and satisfaction.
I am sure everyone feel fulfilled in one or another way, but I am glad life open the parenthood path for me. There are many other things I am trying to accomplish but as long as I have my family, I no longer feel emptiness.
Thank you for stoping by!. Please let me know your personal experience and what do you think about the subject.
Also, you are welcome to check my previous post.
https://steemit.com/portraitcontest/@linzy13/panama-s-traditional-costume-la-pollera
https://steemit.com/colorchallenge/@linzy13/colorchallenge-orange-tuesday
https://steemit.com/introduceyourself/@linzy13/from-south-to-north-from-east-to-west