In the context of the previous conversation with Sean, unasked for kisses, butt touchings, and full on gropings were described as potential "failed passes" instead of violations of someone's bodily autonomy. My understanding is these things happen often and are predominately male on female violations. To suggest these actions should be normalized and considered acceptable would, IMO, mean we don't have the society I prefer and described.

As to your second question, I don't think it means anything in the context of competition. I gave a specific context of an example where (IMO), a woman wasn't being treated correctly. To clarify my example, guys might punch each other in the arm and not get too upset about it. Punching a woman in the arm and expecting her to have a similar reaction as a guy doesn't make much sense to me (again, in a generic sense, not in terms of a specific individual who might not mind at all). That said, one could also make the point punching some guy in the arm without knowing them personally well enough as to whether or not they find that action acceptable or not is also wrong but maybe less wrong?

I agree with you that no one should be coddled or patronized. I'm simply acknowledging there are different, socially accepted preferences between men and women. To ignore them is to (IMO) act deliberately against the most probable preferences of another individual (lacking any specific knowledge about that individual's preference).