With time I have learnt that I need to put myself first, that it is ok to say "no" without having to make an excuse for it, that it really doesn't matter what people think, those who truly love me and care about me will still be there when I'm ready.

That is a powerful statement.

We can become so engrossed in what others want from us that we forget what it means to care for ourselves.

You're right, those who truly care for you will still be there when you are ready. Thank you for sharing this.