The others are an integral part of our lives. Even though each being is profoundly singular and unique, we remain social and social animals. This is why it is essential to learn to live in harmony with oneself . But it is equally . important to get to know your neighbor, to take into consideration his needs, his desires ... And his secrets. . Indeed, there are countless occasions during which a person will hide, conceal things from you, or even bluntly, lie to you.

This Post shows you how to learn how to analyze people, how to detect lies and discover their true intentions.

The guru of what is called behavioral neuroscience is named Paul Ekman. It is a psychologist of American nationality who has deciphered for nearly half a century the facial expressions, which translate - or betray - our inner emotions. Thus, it has listed nearly ten thousand ticks of the face, naming them "micro-expressions". These contractions of muscles last less than one second.

The first step is to remain attentive to the face of your interlocutor. Indeed, three-quarters of the communication between two people is non-verbal. Think of the hands of the Italians when they speak, for example!


In addition to gestures, it is the whole world of the other that is offered to you if you study its expressions well.

According to Ekman, we share seven universal emotions: joy, sadness, anger, fear, disgust, surprise and contempt.

To know more about the known and recognized theories of this scientist, I highly recommend reading his best-seller I know you are lying! : The art of detecting those who deceive you.

In short, it is to study some essential parts of the face: eyes and eyebrows, as well as the mouth. Smiles, grins, shrugs ... All these clues allow you to see clearly.

"The face often contains two messages: what the liar wants to show and what he seeks to disguise" - Paul Ekman

Through a study - stay discreet, is not it! - scrupulous of the face of the other, especially of the people you know well, you will understand little by little how people hide their true intentions.

Let us take a very simple example, in a verbal communication. A friend once stole a bonnet from me. I discovered it through the expressions of his face: either his gaze was fleeting, or he stared at me too long. Neither was natural. Moreover, and it is an essential clue to discover that the other way, she had a manufactured excuse of which she never moved an iota. People who lie always repeat exactly the same thing.

Think about it: when you are telling the truth, you have no problem expressing yourself. When you lie, you have a speech ready in your head. You are discovered, especially if your interlocutor knows how to decrypt you ...

So now that you are trained and you have read the book of the great psychologist specializing in behavioralism, when are you going to be able to use these tools?

It's very simple: every day.

Start with the people you most often attend. By looking at their reactions, you will know in a flash if they tell you the truth. Let us also take the professional world. This is where your reader capabilities will be most useful, especially if you dedicate yourself to trading.

If the smile is still on the corner and your interlocutor is still slightly raising his chin, he not only hides something from you, but he is more than sure that he despises you.

Well, we're not asking you to become completely paranoid and spying on the slightest actions and gestures of your colleagues! It is a matter of finding the balance in order to become, in all serenity, a true Sherlock Holmes of others.

Because it remains undeniable that these tools are real assets for your daily life, but also to progress in your career.

Behavioral neuroscience has become a must, especially thanks to the adaptation of Paul Ekman's research into a TV series, "Lie to Me", which is a real global success. The House of Bluff is another type of success in this matter: these programs, where the tactics are queen, rest solely on self-control and reading the attitude of others.

There are even software that let you train yourself to read facial expressions (like Ninja, for example), but be careful, most of the software is paid for.

You now have all the tools in hand to become the maestro of the art of analyzing people and detecting their little secrets.

One last thing: if you do not read the others, know that they will, will ..So, convinced? Begin to detect the lie in others