And stop being nostalgic.
Hi my friends!)
Some are not able to forget even a nuisance, constantly returning to its associated negative experiences. Or, following the intended purpose, again and again come on the same rake, but desperately break in the deadlock direction. This type of mentality experts call "getting stuck". Often this trait is innate, and yet we must try to be labelmee: to switch quickly from one emotional state to another, change the tactics of behavior depending on the circumstances, to switch between different activities. Do not focus on mistakes, look for different approaches to life, and your chances of success will multiply.
So it was that we always go back to the past. But what a past you have presented in front of you? These are happy or sad memories. It just so happened that our memory always goes back to sad memories, as it caused us a lot of pain and resentment.
I once had this happened. I met a young man for 1.5 years. Endured all from him. Infidelity, festivities, unemployment, drunkenness. And so every day I back home after work, stepping on the same rake every day. Until one morning she came to her senses and said, " ENOUGH." I Packed up and went to my girlfriend's. I had to take this pain and recover for about 3 years. I was offended and not on him, but on themselves. I'm to blame, maybe because he was young and inexperienced. But I took that pain and resentment, I learned from it. And now I'm living a happy life. Yes, I can bring back those memories and remember that pain, but it's just to compare my feelings.
5 easy steps to help you move through your emotions without getting stuck in them
1. Adoption.
Accept what you feel without judgment. Understand that it is normal to feel anger, to be depressed, regardless of what someone says or thinks differently.
If you ignore what you feel or pretend to be, you're fine, you can't move through emotions. You will stay frozen in them.
Taking what you feel, you let it go…
2. Patience.
Some feelings last for a few seconds. Others last for hours or days. Some can last for a year or even longer.
Let the feeling will stay with you until it become obsolete and will not go away.
3. Avoid the habit of self-medication.
Do not try to extinguish this feeling. Drugs, alcohol, food, gambling can temporarily relieve you of pain, but it will not solve your problem.
4. Develop a daily routine.
This provides the Foundation for building your life.Wake up and go to bed at the same time every day. Eat on schedule.Make sure you have time for prayer, deep relaxation and meditation. Include in your schedule time on Hobbies on a regular basis. Find time to communicate with your loved ones. They can support you and give you positive emotions.
5. Bring something new to life
Embark on a journey around the world. And if you do not have time for it, then just pack your bags and go to the place that has always dreamed of visiting. This is your chance to come to your senses and accept the feelings you are experiencing.
I wish you luck!!!))))
