Positive vs Negative
My own thoughts and experiences....and my happy tools.
When good things happen in our life, we get flushed with happy hormones. This makes us positive and creates a feeling of balance in our system. If it were possible, this is what we would want every day for the rest of our lives. In my experience, it is achievable but you have to keep it in mind every day until it becomes a habit. This is all old news for most of us. Where I find I struggle is, when something really negative happens, I fall off the cliff and I get sucked away by negativity. That is how incredibly close negativity is in our lives, and it will do anything to get us. I can easily understand the lure of living with the negative because it is the path of the least resistance.
In my experience, when we chose to live with the negative even though we are at the root positive, it does things to us.
Things that are so negative, it makes us physically and mentally sick.
It can create inflammations in our bodies
It can create cell changes
It can make us mentally ill
and much more.
When it comes to inflammations in our bodies, this is not an easy thing to realize. When we live and breathe the negative we really don't pay much attention to what we eat or drink. Often we grab that bag of chips, bottle of wine, beer, soda, fast food and other things to make our lives easier. This, in the end triggers an autoimmune reaction in us. I wonder how many hypertension, high cholesterol, diffuse pains somewhere in the body can be contributed to this negativity? One thing I do know for a fact, our body only wants one thing and that is to be healthy. It will tell you it is unhappy if you listen.
This is a topic I have discussed with many people from all different walks of life. Prolonged exposure to negativity can trigger cell changes in our body. The free radicals gets to work, and it's like letting them have free range in a candy store. The cancer my mom originally was diagnosed with was breast cancer, it moved from there to bone cancer in the end. Her belief was firm that negativity was a big root cause. She has not been the only one to say this. This makes me wonder if you are a positive person at your core, and end up living in a negative environment, are you more susceptible to diseases like cancer, heart problems, intestinal issues, mental problems just to name a few? I have no answers, only questions so far.
If you feel or are trapped in the negative spiral of life's events and people, it makes you doubt your self. It diminishes your value in your own eyes, and it sends you in to loops and hoops of thinking patterns that have different outcomes. These patterns can lock you in your own head, sadly. Some realize they need help, others has made a decision to go and see a certain person as a good bye, and in doing so changes their minds. Others see no other way than ending it permanently. I have friends, and had friends, from all of these scenarios. It is heartbreaking what an atmosphere of negativity does to us. It doesn't matter if it is real or imagined. For the person living it, it is real, and needs to be taken seriously. Negative people around us do not think so. They think it's okay and why would you be any different? Negativity bases itself only on what it has experienced, or what it can imagine. Whether it is real or not, are of no consequence.
This is why staying positive is so immensely important. For me, it's the only option I have.
I am born a positive person. The family I was born in to accused on many occasions I was too positive and life was not that easy. Life is, if you chose to see it in the positive light, and issues, problems that come are stepping stones to be solved or dismissed. It's a natural event along your path. They get solved, and you keep walking.
For me personally, I had to move far away to be out of reach of the negativity from the family I was born in to. Visiting now and then only.
I strive to stay positive and always give the benefit of the doubt. Try to see the other side of an issue. This can create, if I let it, a situation where I am taken for granted. This teaches you to be assertive, but in a friendly way. For negativity you are a threat.
Even though my mother has passed away, our discussions and her search for positiveness through the last few years of her life, is a unique treasure for me. I had discovered Reiki many years earlier, and she saw the strength in my self that gave. Not so much in the beginning, but as I progressed and certainly after I became a Reiki Master. She went to seminars, bought books, but never got attuned. She was too sick by then. Sometimes the body is simply too weak to be able to take the shift in the energies. She did enjoy getting treatment on her feet. It was a pleasure to give. I even attuned one of my siblings, so it could continue when I wasn't around. For me, Reiki has become as important as breathing itself. It keeps me balanced.
I would be foolish to claim that positiveness cure ailments in our bodies. It doesn't! What it can do, and will if you let it, it makes you listen to your body. If you listen, your body is the biggest tattle teller you will ever encounter. Creating an atmosphere of positive thinking opens your mind to possibilities, and it gives clues to what is going on. When we get the clues we can work on change. Many things were going on in my life and I had fallen off the bandwagon of positive. As I said, fall off the cliff and negativity will grab you. I put on weight, I was diagnosed with hypertension, eating wrong, still exercising but what I put in cancelled out what I burned. Often The burning had a loosing battle, hence the weight gain. Long story short, change of place and back in touch with positive people. It ignited the positiveness in me again, and the body was screaming at me! It was so loud.
Since 2 years this month, I have no more hypertension and no more medication for it, I am very active in a good routine at gym and outside, lost weight-still more to go, but slowly so it stays away. Big change in eating habits. Today I am eating close to a keto way of eating. My positivity is strong again and my skin itches when negativity is around.
It can be a huge toll on you mentally to live in the positive, but that is only if you let negativity reside as a permanent tenant. When we do, tragic events can unfold. We all need negativity as a counter balance. I have chosen to use it as a measuring tool today. Which means when negativity arrives, most often through actions of other people-sometimes my own doing-I keep the jewel of the lesson needed from that, and discard the rest. It is when we can't do away with all what negativity gives, we get stuck in a loop and get sucked in. In this regards, there are no better therapists than a truly good friend to talk to. In my resent run in with the family I was born in to, there was a lesson hidden. I have filed away that lesson, and moved on with the positive. Took me a while but these mental games negativity plays, I am not interested in. There is always a choice and staying with the positive gives balance, where as negativity only offers insecurity.
When you live actively in the positive you become a beacon of light for the negative. Negativity is like mosquitoes to the light. If I had one of the electrical mosquito traps and it worked to zap negativity, I would put one at my front door!
Once I visited a friends place, and I ducked my head as I walked through their front door. I am a short person and they had high ceilings, but so much negativity had collected by their front door I hit my head on it! For me to be able to stay I had to get rid of all that stored negativity. This is what can happen when you chose to live in the positive. It is healthy, and you can help others.
Imagine what I could do with a negativity zapper!!
Get your own positivity started! Laugh Laugh Laugh..nothing like a good laugh a day to keep the negativity away.