How true? According to the studies, about 50% of our subjective feeling of happiness is genetically conditioned. So what can we do if the genes decide half?
We can control the other half, which means a lot. I mean, happiness lies in our own hands! The feeling of happiness, shows the specialists, is not a casualty, but a consequence of concrete thoughts and actions. Or, as Tenzin Gyatso of the 14th Dalai Lama, the spiritual leader of Tibet, says, "the road to happiness requires three secrets: determination and effort." Start right today with the following slogans!
1 I DO NOT LIKE TO COMPARE WITH YOU. Comparison is the end of happiness and the beginning of dissatisfaction, said the Danish philosopher Soren Kirkegaard. That's because there is always someone who has the better paid service or who allows for more luxurious vacations. Thank you for what you have and give up to look left and right!
2 WHAT MEES ME. To be happy, show a lot of psychological research, it's not enough to have money, but first to work with pleasure. When work at work captivates you, you install what specialists call flow. It triggers when the activity we are involved in does not bother us, does not bother us, but makes us forget about ourselves. Relaxation and inactivity, however pleasant, do not flow!
3 APPEAR THE SMALL WORK, WITHOUT WALKING WITHOUT FREQUENCY. The happiest people are those who enjoy small things, not those who expect great happiness. "Happiness comes from the attention we look at, and the unhappiness, from neglect," said German artist Wilhelm Busch. Start by recording three things each evening that seemed particularly beautiful that day. Do this every evening / week / month. It will take a while until your perception changes, but it will work.
4 ALL WILL BE GOOD! No one says to be realistic, but when you think that everything will go well it will motivate you and instill optimism in what you have to do. And this motivation puts in motion unpredictable capabilities!
5 YOU WALK MORE DES. Make the circumstances that make you an occasion to practice your humor. No matter how difficult it is, the reaction helps you to distance yourself from the moment of madness. And the more opportunities are, the happier you will be.
6 YOU WANT A CHANCE OF YOUR EXPERIENCES. Although chocolate cake and steak are very tasty, such as just eating this all the time? The type of food you ordered three times in a row in the restaurant would be good, but would not you mind trying something else on the menu? Only this way you transmit positive signals to the brain.
7 YOU ARE LOOKING MORE MUSIC RITMAT. It helps you not only change your momentary predisposition, it has an effect on the well-being in general. Research has revealed that the tested people, who were asked to listen to a gloomy music, were immediately saddened.
8 YOU WILL TAKE MEDITATION. "I think happiness can be gained by educating the spirit," the Dalai Lama said. Regular practice, meditation exercises reduce stress and anxiety and increase inner satisfaction. Continue to get rid of bad thoughts through meditation, even if it takes several weeks to see the effects.
9 WILL CHRIST FOR ME OUR STATE. It seems that it is not healthy to react to conflicts, not even to put an end to them. Studies show that as you reveal your bad mood, it encompasses you even harder and only amplifies the unpleasant atmosphere.
10 DO NOT HESITATE. The more you dwell on a decision and weigh the alternatives too much, the more unhappy you will be. Many in life will not fit one hundred percent with your wishes, whether it's the choice of clothing, the ideal home, or your partner. Psychologists claim that incontinence is, in the long run, unhappy.
THE FRIEND TO ... FIRST KNOWING
People who talk a lot in everyday life are more satisfied, according to an American study of 80 students. Not the number of friends, but their quality and the fact that they make us happy, experts say. So, rather, some really good friends, whose friendship we cultivate every day, than to gather with superfluous superficial knowledge, which makes us more annoyed than to be bountiful. Also, the feeling that we are not alone makes us happy, experts say.