Positive psychology is a scientific field and like any scientific field its findings only become really valuable when put into practice.
That is why we feel we bring you two different practical positive psychology tools that you can use in your life straight away so let's get down to positive business shall we. So let's get down to positive business shall we ever heard of self-compassion.
Simply put self compassion means that you treat yourself with care and concern when confronted with your own mistakes failures and shortcomings it has three different components self kindness a sense of common humanity and mindfulness, a specific exercise is called a letter of self-compassion and a specific exercise is called a letter of self-compassion and you're going to start with choosing an aspect of yourself that you dislike and criticize it may be appearance career relationships health etc.
Right in detail about how this perceived inadequacy makes you feel what thoughts images emotions or stories come up when you think about it.Next imagine someone who is unconditionally loving accepting and supportive this friend sees your strengths and opportunities for growth including the negative aspects about you the friend except sand forgives and bracing you kindly just as you are.
Write a letter to yourself from the perspective of this kind friend what does he or she say to you how does their friend and courage and support you in taking steps to change let the words flow and don't stress about structure or phrasing after fully drafting the letter put it aside for 15 minutes then returned to the letter and reread it .
Let the words sink in feel the encouragement support compassion and acceptance review the latter whenever you are feeling down about this respect and remember that accepting yourself is the first step to change.
Now before you grab your pen and paper let's go on a daily holiday shall we are you living life in the fast lane.Do you feel like you like time to actively savor and appreciate the experiences in your life then this exercise is for you. Research has shown that rather than their intensity the frequency of positive emotions and feelings is a stronger predictor of our overall level of happiness.Meaning that it's more effective to increase the number of positive experiences than it is to intensify them.This exercise does just that it's called taking a daily vacation you're gonna choose a different vacation every day for example going for a walk chatting with a friend having a hot bath watching the sunrise while sipping on a mug of tea.The only limit is your imagination just choose something you enjoy doing. Before you actually start remember your daily vacation is a time to relax so set aside your worries and fears for a while.
During the daily vacation try to be present and experience what is happening.Notice the sensations how are you feeling what positive emotions are you experiencing take a mental note of them after your daily vacation remember to plan ahead for the next day what will tomorrow's daily vacation be feel free to look forward to it.
Every day before you go to bed take at least five minutes to remember the positive emotions that you save a during the day and on the weekend take 10 to 15 minutes to look at all the positive emotions of the past seven days.
How did you feel this week compared to other weeks are there any differences how do you feel right now? can you imagine how life would be if you did this every day much like love you can See happiness as a verb, So if you put some effort into it you may find yourself enjoying the right as much as the destination time to put it into practice