Each person must bring their own preferences. This self-preference is formed from a long journey, since a person was born, through his childhood until adulthood.
In some people, what is experienced when the children, it has a very big role to life as adults. The inner wounds of childhood may have been a long time ago. But the fact is still scarred for decades. This is what shapes the personality of a person, who he is and how he sees the world.
Fear is abandoned or ignored
Abandoned is the worst enemy of those who have ever experienced neglect in childhood. Imagine how painful a sense of indifference a child experiences. Until he grew up, he was afraid of being alone, feeling isolated and unprotected.
Fear rejected
It could be in childhood he was rejected association because of his appearance or because of his family background. In fact, in some cases, the rejection came from his own family. This pain makes a person feel unloved. He lives with the shadow of a bad self-image.
As adults, people who experience these emotional wounds grow into shy people, withdrawing from intercourse and difficult to understand.
Insult
Without realizing it, labeling during childhood will be embedded in the subconscious of a person until adulthood. The words "stupid", "ugly", "fat" and the like, make his self-esteem trampled. He felt worthless.
Betrayal
This injury usually arises from the bad experiences of a child whose promise is violated by others. He felt betrayed. As a consequence, as adults, people who experience treason in childhood will have negative thinking, suspicion, fear of trusting others even envy. Envy what others have, which they do not get from the promises made by the people closest to them.
Injustice
Unfair feelings experienced in the environment, where the primary caregiver is cool and authoritarian. This injustice creates a feeling of helplessness and neglect. For example, when a child's incompetence in the subject of Mathematics is considered a parent as a "mistake" and his musical ability is not appreciated, he feels life is not fair.
As a result of this treatment, a person will grow into a rigid personality. They only see life as "wrong" and "right".
So what if we ourselves carry the burden of this past wound? The first step we must do is to be at peace with ourselves. Accepting wounds and the past as part of our lives, which we can not simply erase. After all, it is the inner wounds that make us personally today. Take time to treat it. It could be to calm down some time or talk to someone who can be trusted.