If you're not aware that life is a game, it quickly becomes torture. Once you take a defeat, many people tend to look at things negatively. You quickly enter a spiral of negative events. Everything just gets worse. But if you know the rules of the game, there are hardly any situations that can seriously burden you.
Without question, there are situations in which we are really challenged. Be it when we are confronted with overburdening tasks in our professional life or when difficult situations are waiting to be mastered in our private life.
However, one thing is certain: if you comment on these moments with additional laborious, negative thoughts, there is hardly any way out.
Now the question arises: how can we best deal with situations that demand a lot from us?
It is about the inner attitude with which one approaches such situations. With the right awareness, we are able to quickly turn a defeat into a victory.
Take the logic of a computer game, for example.
One reason to play a computer game is the chance to win. If we have the right level of dedication and expertise, we can achieve any goal we set ourselves.
Of course, life often has its own ways and it's this dynamism that gives the game its tension. If it would always run 100% according to our ideas, why should we still play?
The crucial point is the fact that even defeat is not a real problem. A defeat means that you have found a way how it doesn't work. The goal is to find a way that works in order to reach the next level.
If you fail in a computer game against an end boss and thus do not reach the next level, then you hardly sell the computer game directly. Instead you try again and again. You keep looking for ways to get over the end boss and reach the next level.
So, remember, it's not about defeat or failure. It's about how you deal with them. Or, as the Irish writer C.S. Lewis puts it: "Failures are signposts on the road to success".