Hello, guys and gals, I turned 30 last year, and I wanna write some tips for you guys how to live before 30's,cuz I wanna be kind and help people how to make their lives easier ,so they can minimize their chances of getting raped by this stupid, pathetic ,cruel society :).
No. 1: Don't be naive.
This is not some kind of preach from your parents, it's the essence of your early life.I'm 30, I made a lot of stupid mistakes that I knew I shouldn't make but I still did cuz I was too naive to think that everything would go in my way, and I was too simple to think that the people I loved or I trusted would love me back..Come on , when you are 20 years old, every man is gonna say the sweetest things in front of you and made those promises even your grandpa wouldn't make, and you decided to TRUST them! Then you are the one to take all those consequences... So , don't be naive , think twice before you do anything.
No. 2: Start saving money for yourself.
Always remember, money doesn't grow on trees, and money is important in your life, you should always have your own savings, and I'm telling you now cuz this usually will start a world war 3 in the family or relationships, money issue is always number 1 problem. Just imagine if your partner trying to dump you cuz you are poor, you can see the true color of them when it comes to money issue.
One of my co-worker got married last year, and she has 2 jobs and her husband is working, so I assumed that she would have a lot of money in her bank account. But last week she told me that she is broke and she's maxing 2 of her credit cards, I asked why , she told me that she doesn't like to save money , and used all the money to travel, and I asked her what about your husband? He didn't help you in this matter? She told me she was paying off his credit card cuz he always like to buy things that they don't really need at home, and whenever she got paid ,she just told her husband exactly how much she made and he just using it like he owns all the money..This is pretty sad. So remember no matter how much you make, you should always leave some money aside for yourself , just for emergency.
No.3: Accept who you are.
If you are not satisfy with your own body, then change your eating habits, everybody is different, everyone has different body shape, different metabolism, and genes and other factors might affect your body,the most important thing is you should love your own body. and accept who you are, people who has confidence in themselves are the most beautiful people in the world, cuz they are so confident of themselves they always say nice things to other people too.
No.4: Work out is important.
For the sake of your health and longevity , please start working out now , it really doesn't take too much of your time, just a 30 mins walking or 25 mins jogging daily will do you good. Keeping fit gives you confidence too.
No.5: Eat healthy.
Everyone should know this by now, but they still can't do it daily ,so I suggest a way of eating : count your calories, go on a website to check how many calories do you need according to your body type and age, it really helps, usually an adult will need 1500 to 2300 calories to maintain their normal weight. Don't be too hard on yourself, give yourself 1 cheat meal per week to release those eating frustrations, it really helps.
No.6: Avoid toxic people.
Toxic people don't change , their way of thinking is just different from most people, they are cynical, harsh, toxic to everything if they find something or somebody they don't like. You don't have to deal with these people ,just stay away from them.
No.7: Be responsible
As an adult, you should be able to take responsibilities for what you do or have done, if you can't, please stay in your mom's house for another 3 years to learn how to be responsible.
No.8: Sunscreen is important.
UVR is bad for you skins, it will make you age faster, having more skin problems, and too much of UVR will cause cancer, start using sunscreen as young as you can ,and turn it into a habit.
No.9: Find your habits.
Do you like music? movies? travelling? Yeah save up those money that I told you about and do something that you like in your life, buy a guitar and write some songs, go to movies with your friends at weekends or families, plan a small trip with your love ones , those are all important in your life.
No.10:Learn to respect others.
Even though you don't like your bosses, learn to respect them. Sometimes just a smile is more than conversations.
No.11: Plastic surgery is optional.
Don't be so judgemental, if you don't like some part of your body, you won't be confident, you won't be happy with yourself, if plastic surgery is a choice, there is no harm, as long as it will make you happy.
No.12: Take photos.
Take photos of your family, your friends ,yourself, a stranger from afar, beautiful scenery ,food, whatever, it's memory , and beautiful memories deserve to be saved in your life.
No.13:Dress properly.
You can dress whenever you want at home, or going to a corner store, but please dress properly according to different occasions and places, you don't wanna put your pajama pants on when you go to a high end restaurant or dress suit and ties when you go to a picnic PLEASE.
No.14:Read a lot.
Reading will enrich your mind, broaden your horizons. Pick up a book and kill your time slowly in a coffee shop, its a lifestyle.
No. 15: Don't dwell on your past, live for today, never regrets.
Let bygones be bygones, making mistakes is how you grow , you learn from your mistakes, it's not late to change yourself, as long as you don't make the same mistakes again. Regrets are useless, never regrets,but try to make things right, if you can't ,then let it be, life is too short to waste your energy on things you did years ago.
No.16:Family is important.
Your family will always be the first one their for you no matter what, learn to love your family , and put them in the first place, like they put you first too.
No.17: End unhealthy relationship asap.
Before 30's, you will see lots of jerks and dbags , if you are unlucky and got in an abusive, toxic, unhealthy relationship, please get out as soon as possible, you don't have much time to waste on these people.
No.18:Set a small goal for yourself every year.
Plan ahead, but don't plan 20 years ahead from now, you never know what's gonna happen next.
Like if you wanna buy a new gaming computer, wanna go to New York city for 3 days, wanna buy a car, wanna buy a house, wanna change a new lawn... Yes, start plan ahead, and start doing it today , enjoy your life everyday ,because you live for now, not for the past , not for the future.