Our mothers have always advised us not to tell anyone about our goals and to reveal our secrets for fear of envy, envy, etc. ... Have you ever guessed that they are right? Yes, be right! This is what we will discuss in this subject from the scientific side!
Do you want to complete your studies in other countries? Well do not tell anyone that.
Has your boss promised you a promotion? Well do not tell anyone that.
Will you migrate to another place soon? Well do not tell anyone that.
Do you want to know why? Well, focus with us, imagine this scenario: Tell a friend you want to travel to the United States to complete your studies, congratulations your friend and tell you that you are very lucky, then have a great pleasure and feel that you are closer to your goal, but you are sure you will study there, You do not know that you just killed your target yourself, because that ecstasy and the good feeling I felt have reduced the chances of achieving your goal.
Repeated psychological experiences have proved that telling someone to your goal reduces your chances of achieving it. Obviously, you must work hard and pass through a range of obstacles to achieve your dream. So when you succeed, you will feel good about yourself. You know how much you have earned and how hard you have been. Yes. But when you declare someone your goal and acknowledge it, you burn up a number of logical stages. Scientists call this the "social reality", where your mind is tricked by the feeling that "the goal has been reached" and that you become less motivated to do the necessary work To reach your goal.
In 1926, Kurt Levin, the founder of social psychology, called the "substitution" for this trick. In 1933, Weira Mahler found that when your goal is known to others, the feeling of satisfaction is already rooted in the mind, Then, in 1982, Peter Glotzer wrote a book on the subject, which in 2009 would lead him to do some of his later experiments: 163 people participated in four different experiments. Each one of them was asked to write down his personal goal, Half of the participants then publicly declared their commitment to the goal while the other half did not, and then was given Each person has 45 minutes of work that will help him directly to reach his goal, telling him that he can stand when he wants to, and the result: people who remained silent about their goals worked on average for 45 minutes and when asked later they said they still felt their way was long More to reach their goals, while the other half stopped after an average of 33 minutes and after questioning they confirmed that they are close to achieving their goal.
So what is the solution? Try to resist the temptation to declare your goal in public, to postpone the state of satisfaction caused by recognition, and know that your mind makes a mistake in the distinction between words and deeds, but if you can not resist the temptation, talk about the goal in a way you will not be satisfied, say, for example: I study English five times a week so I can complete my studies in the United States. "
