Hello dear Steemers!
We are all experienced in our lives that we are insulted. Talking ugly things about us, spreading untruths. When they come to us such stories, or worse, when you live listen to someone offends us, we feel sad, and often erupting. We are defending ourselves. Fight back, insulting those who offend us. Do not choose words. We say what we think and what we do not mean. We want to hurt that person. We wish that it hurts as it hurts us.
What I was wondering was why it hurts me? Why do I care what anybody story? What hurts me when I hear someone say that I either way, especially when you know that's not true? Why do I feel the need to say that is not true?
At first it appears sense of justice. Not only when I was in question, but also when someone else was concerned.
'No, he's not like that. Do not say that. '
I wanted to set things straight.
For me personally, a few years ago, if someone said something bad, I would be offended because of me were complex and low self-esteem that would be obeyed as the truth.
I thought it must be true. I did such and such. Why else would anyone say it?
Today it is not so. Today, when someone tells me some nonsense like 'You're stupid. "I find it funny.
I know I'm not stupid. Why should I then offended when someone tells me that I am?
Also, why should we not care about the opinion of a person who witnessed such things about me? Why would I want this person with you?
Today is so because I know that when one speaks badly of me, he really talking about themselves, not about me. To think well of themselves, would not have the need to talk bad about me.
I'm sorry people who need to reduce the other to make themselves raised.
Respect yourself first, and then other people. When you respect yourself, then you will know how to respect others. Also, when you respect yourself first, and then the other, others will know you are appreciated. People smell yourself when someone does not respect and disrespect you just shows you that you do not respect, precisely because he does not respect you.
Imagine a beautiful day. Imagine that you are doing what you love, you feel wonderful, fulfilled. Do you. You can be on the beach. You feel complete tranquility and splendor. Lying on a deck chair, have closed eyes and enjoy. Someone passing, a stranger, and you hear about someone. The story that the person lying there and enjoy it while poor have to work. Talk to the person lazy and how easily enjoy it, while there are others who have to work.
Happy man does not need to reduce the other. He is happy, and all he wants is for others to be happy.
And, if you think he's happy just because it offends the other, that it is full, then he is not happy. He was then deeply unhappy.
All we learn while we're here. The sooner you start learning, the better for you. And for the other. Be an example!
No one deserves to be insulting to someone torturing on him.
Look at the stars, do not look at this as looking down the walls and limits in place in the stars that show how the boundaries there.