3 Dangerous Things You Should Never Say In Your Relationship

“You always… you never.”
Avoid speaking in the extremes and superlatives in your relationship. It can be very tempting to accuse your partner of ALWAYS being guilty of something. It can be tempting to be angry at your partner and tell them that they NEVER do this one thing that you ask them to. But that is always the wrong approach to dealing with the problem. When you say this to your partner, you are attacking them with your words; and you’re doing so with the intent to make them feel bad about the role that they’re playing within your relationship. You have to remember that communication is ultimately about being able to make things better in your relationship;
“I don’t really care all that much.”
It boggles the mind as to why some people still feel like they can say this in a relationship and expect to get away with it. The whole point of being in a relationship is having someone with whom you can always relate to; having someone who is always going to have your back when you need it the most. When your partner comes to you with something; no matter how trivial it might be or how uninterested you are in that topic, you must always be able to express some form of interest. You can’t let your partner feel like you’re just going to disregard what they’re trying to tell you. You really have to always CARE about what your partner cares about.
“Forget about it; it doesn’t really matter.”
No. Don’t leave your partner hanging like that. Don’t try bringing something up without having the intention of finishing it. That’s totally unfair to your partner; and it’s very frustrating to deal with. You always want to make sure that you are communicating how you feel to your partner. You have to know that your own thoughts and feelings matter; and that your partner deserves to hear them. You can’t keep everything bottled up inside. You can’t keep expecting your partner to be a mind-reader. If you want to get something off your chest, you need to trust that your partner is going to receive it with an open ear and a loving heart.