WORDS FROM FATHER TO A SON.

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT
MARRIAGE

1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman
   and she never asked you if you’re saving or
   investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention,
   don’t marry her.
2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to
   you, some could be a good mother to your
   children but if you’ve found a woman like a
   mother to you, your children and your family,
   please don’t let her go.
3. My son, don’t confine the position of your
   wife to the kitchen, where did you get that
   from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands
   where they worked every morning . . . that was
   our office.
   
4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of
   the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you
   will see a smile on your wife’s face.
5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let
   your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be
   difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of
   the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in
   your care, she will keep you asking even when
   all has been spent.
   
6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the
   pain in her body is nothing to be compared to
   the wound on her heart and that means you may
   be in trouble living with a wounded woman.
7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a
   bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will
   soon be single again.
8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and
   many children because of our large farm-lands
   and many harvests, there are hardly any land for
   farming anymore, so embrace your woman
   closely.
9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet
   your mother could be your eateries and
   restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the
   closet thing we did there was to embrace each
   other.
10. My son, don’t be carried away when you
    start making more money, instead of spending
    on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you
    worked to get it, spend it on that woman that
    stood by you all along.
11. My son, when I threw little stones or
    whistled at the window of your mother father’s
    house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was
    because I missed her so much.
12. My son, remember, when you say your wife
    has changed, there could be something you’ve
    stopped doing too.
13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle
    with me before I bought that tortoise car
    outside there, any woman that won’t endure with
    you in your little beginning should not enjoy
    your riches.
    
14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any
    woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too
    and has she ever compared you to any man?
15. My son, there is this thing you people call
    feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal
    right with you in the house, divide all the bills
    into two equal parts, take one part and ask her
    to start paying the other part.
16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I
    took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet
    your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I
    didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.
17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school
    because I was foolish like many to think a
    female child won’t extend my family name,
    please don’t make that mistake, the kind of
    female achievers I see nowadays has made the
    male-gender an ordinary tag.
18. My son, your mother have once locked up
    the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it
    because she was angry, I did not raise my hand
    to beat her because of a day like this, so that I
    can be proud to tell you that I never for once
    beat your mother.
19. My son, in our days, our women had more
    of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you,
    some had minor painting of their appellation
    mostly on their arms, the ones you people now
    call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t
    expose any part of their body like your women
    of nowadays.
    
20. My son, your mother and I are not
    interested in what happens in your marriage, try
    to handle issues without always coming to us.
21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s
    first sewing machine for her, help your wife
    achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing
    yours.
22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and
    your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and
    having children to take care of you too.
23. My son, pray with your family, there is a
    tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that
    knows everything, everyday.