A lot of people claim that they have been living life in perfect harmony and that everything is in order and just as they wanted. One fine day there is a jolt and suddenly you feel shaken up, and you start questioning your own-self "Why did this have to happen with me".
Now the real problem is not that why it had to happen with you, it could have happened with anyone. There are millions of people suffering cancer and still when one is diagnosed the whole world crashes down with all the possible questions to life "WHY ME". So Why not you? So are you saying why me, someone else should have suffered this 😊
Till the time we do not face very adverse situations in life, we don't bother to understand the depth of life. We go for a nice dinner we feel happy. Ok the mood next day is also good since you have spent some good time, but day after that the pleasantness is off, again back to the rut. A small car accident on the road and you are off for the whole day or may be couple of days. You get recognition at work and yes you are at the top of the world. Boss fires you the whole world comes crashing down.
So is life all about this I mean "Living Externally". I will not say 100% but OK I can say around 80% of people are living life "Externally". When I say Externally what does it mean, it means all our happiness, joy, sorrow come from external experiences.
Ok so is that wrong? No it is not. We are all born with the 5 senses which are a part of us and the function of these senses is to give you different emotions. But now where the problem lies is what is a so called part of us, we have become part of it. So let me elaborate further.
We are all meant to go through experiences of life by going through various situations of life, so we are meant to live these experiences. Now since they are just experiences they are also meant to be in our control. But here we are getting into a reverse zone. The so called experiences of life have started controlling us.
So let me give you one e.g. You have joined a corporate firm, its your first day to work. All set, everyone in the new place is new to you, new beginnings with work, place and people. You go to work. You get a warm welcome, you are introduced to people. You meet your team members. Go around the place and so on. So for all this you will have a mascot. After spending around 2 to 3 hours with you, this person has become kind of friendly and he/she starts talking about how things are at work, how people are at work. This person will start putting his opinion about his experiences at the work place. In all of this there is a mention of 1 person who is claimed to be not very friendly, nice and helpful. So you start with your work, you go ahead with your duties. As you carry on suddenly you are in some hitch and you need help. You will look around for people to assist you. You have a couple of them among who the unfriendly soul also exist. Your first reaction will be oh let me not ask him, let me check with someone else. Now this is the worst scenario. You have not even experienced anything with that person but you already have an opinion formed. Or it can be other way you still go ahead and ask the unfriendly person for help, now at that moment this person is genuinely busy and refuses to come, oh ghosh now it is validated that the person is definitely not friendly and helpful and you say people were right, I should have never asked this person for help.
We are doing this almost every time in our life not only with people but also with situations, living life with opinions that have kind of bubbled up within us through others or through our reactions to various situations directly or indirectly encountered.
Having emotions is not wrong, its our basic nature but the reaction to the emotions is where the whole problem lies. We always want to find out reasons, anything that challenges the logical mind is hard to accept. We are not able to accept that life can be simple also. Life can move on beautifully without the much drama of emotions or without being very important for others and for self.
The whole experience of life is made outward. something happens you feel happy, something doesn't happen you feel sad.
Is your happiness dependent on external factors. Happiness is a part of you and its your basic nature. You do not need support systems to be in a state of joy and bliss. You yourself are a bundle of Joy.
Take out time from your very busy lives on and off to reflect on your life. That does not mean you start over analyzing it but see what you are doing does it really bring joy to you, do you enjoy it? Its OK to be not bothered about your most dear one at times and only bother for your own-self. Do not feel guilty about it. Expectations from around will always be there, but its not that you are responsible for everything that comes up. Showing the ability to respond and take up everything on your head and feeling responsible are two different things. Live each day as it comes. Do not get stuck into the melodrama of emotions of your own and of those around you. Dwell into the journey inwards. Life is to experience every moment and move on and not feel stuck in it. Live your passion, live your dreams, Let go off yourself loose. Let not the experiences of life take over you. You be the boss of your life, only when you start living life with an inward approach will you be able to break these chains.
So my message is stop living life at the surface. Start peeling the layers, get to the core of your existence. The very first step to it is have a control over your life. Be the master of your life. Let not situations and emotions control you. You be the controller. Being Empathetic is good but being foolishly sympathetic is like committing a SUICIDE by slow poisoning yourself
Love and Light from SoulSpace
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