How can we protect children from sexual assault?
Sexual offenses committed against children, Turkey's biggest bleeding wound. Citizens are reactive, families are worried ... How can we protect children from sexual assault? How can we tell them the privacy? And how can it be understood that a child is under sexual exploitation? Psychiatrist Professor Dr. Nevzat Tarhan answered ...
After starting walking, the psychiatrist stated that it is very important to teach the child the perception of privacy. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, "If the child has a first degree relatives, a person who wants to touch his body 'no' should give a serious education about the need to be found" warned. Professor Dr. Tarhan also used the phrase "it is necessary to pay a price for a criminal machine that sexually exploits a vulnerable and unprotected child".
Üsküdar University Rector, Psychiatrist Dr. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, sitting on Turkey's agenda recently, child abuse and children gave important information on how to protect against possible dangers.
WHEN SHOULD YOUR PRACTICE BE EDUCATED?
Professing that the sense of privacy should be given to children after they started walking. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, noted the following point: "The child has special branches of the body. To make a negative connotation in the child, 'Look, no one else will touch the area where the underwear is. You should be taught slowly after you start walking to this child, saying, 'We will not even touch those areas without your permission.' The period after toilet training is more important. When you start to hold your toilet, the child's control mechanisms are developing. This can be taught to the child. Especially when they start to study when they are exposed to such a situation, we are trying to say 'No'. "If the child has a first-degree relative, it is necessary to give a serious education to a person who wants to touch his / her body" No ".
PREVIOUS VIOLATIONS FOR SEXUAL EMPLOYEES
Stating that sexual abuse in every child is actually a result, Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan said that before sexual abuse, there are 4 more neglects and exploits in the child, saying: "Emotional neglect, emotional abuse, physical neglect and physical abuse. Abuse of these four on sexual exploitation studies is usually within the family of 60-70% of the child, within the child's relatives. This is happening among people who live in the same house or who know that child. If there is a physical abuse of the same family from the same family, that is if the child is beaten, scolded, scolded, cigarettes are put out, the child is physically suffered, or there is physical neglect; for example, when the child comes home, there is no food, it comes from the school, no one is hungry at home, or does not see any help in changing the head. These are also physical negligence. It is emotional abuse that can not meet the emotional needs of the child, to play with his emotions, to ignore him at home, to humiliate him, to always criticize and always say bad words. Emotional neglect is; the child needs emotional needs. That is to say, if the body needs protein carbohydrates, the developing spirit of the child also needs love, respect, and interest. "
UNLESS OFFLINE ...
When children live in the same house in the family, they emphasize that they have been "abandoned without distance". Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, "So the person is in the same house, is in the same environment, but the child only feeds, some mothers who give themselves after cleaning. He deals with other issues or works himself if he works. The child is physically in the same environment but emotionally distanced between the parent and the child. In such cases, emotional neglect occurs. These children are being nominated for future mental disorders. Sometimes a child living in such an environment becomes an anti-social, ie succinctly influential relatives, for example, if there is a relative using alcohol, it is not necessary to leave the child in the same room. If there is a relative who has experienced legal problems, if there is someone who has gone out of his pocket often and who can say it easily, or if he is sexually interested, for example, if there is someone interested in porn; if you have someone from the family who has accumulated erotic material in your home, then if you leave the child in the same environment it means to deliver this child with your own hands. Erotic and pornographic material and the causality relationship between sex crimes was reported by the US Attorneys' Board. Some opposed it; but it is accepted that there is a causal link between sexual violence and pornographic-erotic material. This is a potential risk for those who are curious about these issues. They are reasonably suspicious. These people should not leave children in the same environment. If even one of this family is a sibling, even a father, if a father is interested in pornographic material, the mother will not leave the child in the same room. This is not a simple situation. So we have to protect the child, it is the same within the mother, "he said.
SENSITIVITY IN THE SOCIETY MUST BE "
Indicating that the children should be taught to yell. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan said that safe behavior should be taught to the child and the family and continued as follows: "If someone in the family has been joking before and has been in some behavior, it is not safe behavior to stay in the same environment with him. We need to provide a secure environment. But most importantly; we can not manage other guests, close relatives, but we can give our own children the skills to do so. Teaching it is much more important than it was in the old days. Especially in developed societies, sexual crimes have increased in Western societies. Sexual violence increased. Child harassment has increased a lot. When you go on the street, even if you love the child of someone you do not know, they can arrest you immediately if you want to. Such laws have been enacted. Why is that? In general, social sensitivities need to take place on related issues. The state needs to create sensitivity. In this respect, the ratio of sexually related crimes between men and women is also valid for both sides. It is only in this situation that women or men should not be put into a state of sacrifice. Both sides could be victims. Girls do not notice boys either.
If a child experiences a change in behavior, temperament, personality, a child is afraid of entering the bathroom, afraid of being alone in the room, or afraid of touching one of the popos, that is, if there is such a strange, unexplainable behavior, the professor. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, "the child is not asked directly here. It is usually the area where the child can best express himself. During a game, her toys are arranged, various games are set up and the children start to imitate the behavior they experienced during the game. So you make yourself something closer to your sexual organs, you know from there, this child is having a problem with it. Generally, there is no concept of sexuality in children before the age of 5, and there is no shame or sin concept because they do not know. In this game your child can solve this situation. In fact, the child plays a sexual behavior game that a child of that age should not know. The baby boy and the girl are taking the baby and can make sexual behavior. When you do this, it is not possible for your child to learn it on television by himself. The child was either in the family or the door to the parents' bedroom was open, or this was done to him; need to investigate. That's why the child does not forget what he's dreamed of. He can not express himself, but he lives in his own dream. This can be understood during the game. After understanding, these children are often traumatic stress disorder. He's been experiencing this experience again. In such a situation, families need to feel that they are not alone, that a more qualified relationship with the child is needed, what would be a qualified relationship instead of a relationship in the form of "feed, drink, leave an edge"? So a relationship with that child's eye contact, a relationship that he plays together If there's a feeling that 'my parents love me, they value me', the child can solve such a tram. Unraveled trauma can be resolved. Because in some cases there is an inevitable traumatic experience, "he said
UZMANDAN HELP!
"There are a variety of projective tests in such situations," says Tarhan. "There are situations in which the child learns crying, fears, wee control, urine control, but starts to miss them from the bottom, and if they are not afraid before. These tests capture and heal by interrogating conflicts in his inner world. Game treatments usually work. Family therapy is being done and trying. There is no such thing as a child that will carry him for life, even if he has a trauma. Surveys that are done, there are traumatic experiences in the third of the society, and most of them solve social support if the love environment is good, emotional support if they are good and bury it in the subconscious like the historical garbage bag and do not harm it. The social support psychological support of your parents is important here, but if it is not enough, an expert help is obtained from the child psychiatrist. In some cases, it may even require taking medication, "he said.
HOW DOES SEXUAL ABUSE BE UNDERSTANDED?
Stating that verbal expression and emotion expression began slowly in children over 5 years of age, Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan said, "If there is a child-trust relationship while he or she is sitting in the same environment with such children's stories, and if there is a trust relationship between the therapist or the person who can do it, social support, pedagogical support, the child can open feelings he feels . But if this can turn into a judicial situation, if there is a legal problem, if someone in the family has committed sexual abuse and exploitation, this is already the case in our law. In other words, if you are witness to such a situation, you need to be sensitive about initiating legal proceedings. Because this is a human crime machine that sexually exploits a sexually vulnerable and unprotected child. So this man needs to pay a price in a way. It is necessary to keep the natural result and the cost of the behavior alive. For this reason, such people are forgiven in the family, "he spoke.
Professor Dr. Nevzat Tarhan stated that his siblings should sleep in different beds and said, "Even if the brothers are in the same room, their beds must be separated and absolutely need to teach the sense of privacy."