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A lot of relationships ended in anger, frustration and differences that could have been easily resolved. Some people don't understand that people are different and building relationships with them will take time, effort and patience. Most people are not even in healthy relationships, and they keep wondering what they are not getting right.
These tips can help you build a Healthy Relationship
Love and Acceptance
Love and accept your partner for who they are. Don't try to change them, the only person you can change is yourself. Don't date someone with the intent to change them, understand that people are different so it's either you accept them the way they are, or you set boundaries to avoid getting hurt. Don't compare them with your previous partners or try to hold them up to an ideal relationship standard and if you feel you can't live with them, end the relationship.Don't Control Them
Do not try to control your partner or make them accept your ways. Allow them to be themselves, they are called partners not maids. Instead of controlling them, try to compromise, you must not have your way.Respect their interests
You may not have the same hobbies or interests with your partner, that should not give you room to over look them. Show interests in them and what they love doing, give them space to express their interest and listen to them. If he loves foot ball and you don't, join him and watch a match, ask questions and show that you are interested in what he loves.Avoid Criticism
Don't criticize your partner's emotion. Your partner might be angry over things that you feel is insignificant, don't criticise their anger, remember that people are different.E.g saying things like It's that why you are angry?, you shouldn't be angry.. Instead try to criticise constructively the way they expressed their anger, maybe they blew it out of proportion or they were almost violent, talk to them calmly and address the issue.Listen and Be Attentive
In everything, good listeners are good learners. You can't know everything about your partner in a day, learning about them is a daily process. The only way to learn about them is to listen and be attentive to their attitude, moods and emotions. Be interactive, that way they open up to you and you know them better.Don't Stay Angry
When you have misunderstandings which are normal between 2 different people, don't stay angry for too long, and don't start bringing up old offenses, it will lead to angry words that you can't take back. Always resolve your issues immediately. And if you notice changes in your partner, try to find out the root of the problem, and solve the problem from the root.Compliment Them
Always compliment your partner. When they help you out with things, say thank you. Always say please, be polite. When they dress good, compliment them, it keeps the sparks alive.Be Intimate
Make a conscious decision to be intimate. Attractions die off naturally when you've spent years together or probably had kids, take out time to touch, steal a kiss like you guys just started.
Healthy relationships take time and effort but it eventually pays off at the end..
