Have you ever paused and take a thought, the way things are fallen in place for you, the kind deeds people have done for you directly or indirectly, by your immediate family or an outsider. I really want us to take a deep thought on the act of @THANKFULNESS. What we should always know is that no amount of arms, or deed, or kindness that someone did for you shouldn’t matter, all of them should matter no matter how little you think they are. The fact about life is that no body owes a dame thing even you immediate family , your siblings or your parents so knowing and having this at the back of our minds is the more reason why we should be @THANKFUL.
The word @THANK YOU is so simple yet so powerful, it’s the embodiment of gratefulness and when you use it, you not only give yourself a self-worthiness , you give it to the other party at the same time. It doesn’t matter if it’s a stranger or your love one a self-generated act of @THANKFULNESS matters even if you don’t know the person from Adam, that act of gratitude, that act of gratefulness no matter how small the deed is, will give you both a boost of self-worth.
There is this saying “be contented with what you have and be @THANKFUL for the little you are given”
What is @THANKFULNESS? “Gratitude”
What is @THANKFULNESS? “I value you”
When you show gratitude or when you are thankful, it acknowledges the fact that you are a kind of person someone is willing to do something for, it shows that out of your own consciousness, reflex and sell-will, that you are being @THANKFUL for someone who value you, who went extra miles to do something good for you.
The fact that most people have this mindset that people are meant to do something for them, this person or that person is supposed to do this thing for me is not a deal breaker at all!!
Listen up, no body owe you anything in this life, I have said this before and am saying it again. The fact that you feel opportune for someone to do something good for you doesn’t make you feel entitled to that deed. It’s out of that person’s willingness, self-worth, graciousness and kind heart that made him/her to choose you out of millions of people in the universe. So don’t feel so important that by being @THANKFUL for the deed you are doing him or her a favor no, actually you are doing yourself a huge favor because when someone does good to you, you owe him or her but when you are @THANKFUL to him or her, they owe you a second time. What you just did is to keep the door of favor open, so be @THANKFUL no matter what.
@THANKING someone also creates a social bond between you two. It builds an emotional connection that creates an endless ripple. This makes that person to want to always do something for you, they will like to always connect to you even to the extent of hooking you up to a bigger favor or someone else who will do something bigger for you.
Know it today, the more you look for things to be @THANKFUL for, the more help and kindness you will get and the more you choose to be thankful, the more thankful things appear in your life.
Being @THANKFUL creates a space for compassion for oneself and even other people around you. Having compassion for oneself kills that spirit of self-criticism and inferiority, it makes us take responsibility for our lives and the things we do. We begin to see reasons to be @THANKFUL , we begin to see reasons to be positive about life no matter how harsh or hard life has become.
Growing up thought me a whole lot and one of them is the act of being @THANKFUL. I have this aunt that normally visits from time to time and each time she visits, she buys gifts, snacks and a whole lot of things for us. But the awful part is the way she shares those gifts, if you didn’t @THANK her for the previous gift she gave to you when she last visited, or maybe someone had to remind to say @THANK YOU to her, you aren’t getting another gift when next she comes. So having this in mind, I have to consciously or unconsciously say @THANK YOU to anyone that gives me anything, it got to a point that people start asking me “ what are you always @THANKING me for?” till date that habit of saying @THANK YOU has never departed from me.
There is this saying by Francois de La Rochefoucauld, “A great many men’s gratitude is nothing but a secret desire to hook in more valuable kindnesses hereafter”. Showing gratitude and appreciation at all times, even the bible says “give @THANKS to God at all times no matter your predicament”
Give THANKS for little things for its when you are @THANKFUL for little that’s when bigger things come your way. Appreciation goes a long way in creating a stronger more positive relationship, self-worth and feeling of support, anything can be worthy of appreciation, don’t think when someone tells you to say @THANK you that’s when it deems fit for you to appreciate a kind deed.
Let’s do this; the biggest confidence booster is taking action
Have someone ever done something for you? No matter how little it is? No matter whom they are?
@THANK them for what they have done for you, you mustn’t get them gifts, they don’t need your gift. Just say @THANK YOU to them and mean it. You can send an sms to them, you can write them a letter. You can say it in person or even a social media chat or text can do a great job, let it be from the heart, let them know that you are very @THANKFUL
