Yesterday I was with some new friends I made in Bali. I’m not much of a partier, but I scored some free tickets to an event by the beach with the DJ from Black Eyed Peas, so I went. And let’s just say when I start dancing, I CAN’T STOP. Even if it’s 4 am.
Anyway, they wanted to go out again the next day for a more low key type party. They tried several times to get me to go. They even threw the dreaded word “FOMO” (Fear of missing out) in there.
And I realized that in the past, that would’ve worked.
I would’ve gone because “FOMO” instead of “YOLO.”
But I can actually say life is MUCH easier and happier when you don’t give a crap about FOMO.
Because then you’re not sitting there worried about missing out on something, or things you could be doing if you weren’t doing this other thing that’s going on at the same time, etc.
I’m listening more now to what I REALLY want to do.
And last night, after meeting up at my friend’s villa and “co-working” by the pool (bringing our laptops so we could feel productive but then never actually opening them), all I wanted to do was chill.
I wanted to go to my favorite bakery with my favorite gluten-free cake that I pretend is a vegetable, put on my comfiest clothes, and color in the “My Little Pony” coloring book that my favorite friend in Bali gave me.
In the past, I would’ve been torn. I might have forced myself to go out by the beach one more time and yada yada.
But now I just do what I want, and decide to be happy with that decision.
Last night, I knew I wanted to color and have cake with my friend.
I wanted to wear loose pants and let my belly hang out a little.
And so I did it. And it was perfect. I had a really fun night.
Even took a selfie fail:
I may have enjoyed my time had I gone to the beach also, but if I worried about that, then it would take some of the joy and contentment away.
I’ve been much happier just living in the moment and not worrying about all of these other things going on.
I don’t say “yes” just because I don’t want to miss out.
Now I just say yes to something if I really want to do it, and even though I’d say I’ve always been a very happy person… I’m even HAPPIER now as a result of it!!