Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.
Jim Rohn
What is self-discipline?
Self-discipline is the ability to control yourself.
A lot of people are facing hardships and broken relationships because they lack this very important virtue.
Luck vs Self-discipline
I have a friend who is always "lucky". Anything she sets her mind upon turns out successful and of course, she always brags about how "lucky" she is.
On the other hand, I saw myself as "unlucky". My businesses crumbled. My relationships don't last long. My expectations get cut off. All these made me feel some unseen forces were against me, little did I know that I created those forces by my attitude.
One certain day I visited her at work, I noticed that her boss was harsh on her. After her working hours, on our way back home, I told her that I can't work for such a cruel person. She smiled and said,
"as long as he doesn't seize my salary, I don't care about his behaviour, I'm only focused on collecting the money I need for my school fees from him".
If I was the one, I would have resigned, join the jobless youth roaming around the city in search of jobs, then bemoan my "unlucky" life.
What I called "luck" in the life of my friend, was nothing but someone who knows what she wants, and knows how to discipline herself enough to get it. Self-discipline endowed her with an attractive personality which makes people favour her.
All those we see as "lucky" are people who are disciplined enough to fully utilize every opportunity that comes their way. While those being "unlucky" are getting a byproduct of their wrong attitude.
Many good relationships are ruined because couples lacked self-discipline. A word can kill a relationship, Just as much as silence could save it.
Discipline makes you not to react based on what has been done, but what is right. It makes you contented with what you have. Discipline helps you live above selfishness, greed, envy and pride.
Talent vs Self-discipline
I don't dispute the fact that people are born with natural endowment, but I can confidently tell you that most of The famous people we celebrate today are made out of years of continuous practice, perseverance and intense focus.
Discipline is what makes you continue when you feel like quitting.
Discipline makes you focused no matter what tries to distract you.
Discipline is the oil that lubricates perseverance.
The reason most kids who didn't show any sign of natural talent grew up to become great is because they never depended on natural abilities but worked hard/smart to develop their skills.
More than natural talents, self-discipline guarantees a happy and successful life.
Questions we should ask ourselves
- In what area of your life do you lack discipline?
- What are the things you fall for over and over again?
- What makes it so difficult to overcome some bad habits?
Steps to Build Self-discipline
- Practice self-denial.
- Know your strengths and weaknesses.
- Motivate yourself.
- Have a mentor.
What we need to know
- We must know that life is not a joke and everything we do or didn't do has consequences.
- We all have the inherent ability to control our feelings, thoughts and actions.
- Self-discipline is not something we can build in a day. It becomes a part of us after years of continues practice.
- Self-discipline is not supposed to mean staying away from fun or punishing yourself. It is the ability to eliminate self-destructive habits, forcing yourself to do the needful even when it seems impossible and focusing on your goals until they are achieved.
Conclusion
Self-discipline is a gateway to a more comfortable, happy and successful life. In other words, if you desire success in what you do, apply discipline. If you want to live a happy life, be disciplined. Life is not a playing ground and some opportunities misused can never come back. Be serious.
If you don't discipline yourself today, life itself will discipline you by attracting miseries, shame, poverty, divorce, sickness and other negative things to your life.
Don't count people's success without studying what they did behind the scenes before they became successful.
Are you disciplined enough to sustain and nurture a good relationship?
What has been standing in your way to success?
How disciplined are you?
If the lack of self-discipline has cost you something you valued, but you have learnt your lesson, please share in comments below. I'm a teacher who is still learning.
