The truth remains that we can't see anybody's heart so we pass judgements based on what we hear, see or perceive. The human heart is so deep that sometimes, you don't even know all that's in your heart. And if you don't know all that's in your own heart, then you should not be too fast to judge others.
We live in a world where nobody cares about facts anymore. We read things on social media, newspapers, listen to radio stations or watch televisions, then conclude on a matter without knowing the truth beyond what we were told.
People are hated just because someone else said something bad about them. Couples break up because they perceived their partner was cheating on them (even when they have not confirmed their suspicion).
Why are we so much in haste to pass conclusions? Are people's words and actions all we need to evaluate them? Could there be more to what we know or assume?
We forget that most media houses are outlets for propaganda and brainwashing. We also forget that everything anybody says is based on his perception, personal gains or motives. Most of what we know as facts are farther from the truth than we can ever imagine.
Times without number, I have seen people misjudge my actions, inaction and words. Sometimes when I fail to reply a text, I'm called a snub. Some say I'm full of pride. Sometimes, when I talk, my choice of words might betray my true intentions. But how else can you know what's in my heart if not through my words and actions? Time, give me more time. Don't be quick to conclude. Life is not all about what you hear or see.
My actions or in-actions could be as a result of personal battles I'm facing which you know nothing about. With time, I could get over it, or perhaps, you'll understand why I acted the way I did.
Why we need to be free from sentimental judgements and prejudice
Whenever you have a biased mind over anything, your heart will constantly look for evidence to support its stance. Also, a biased mind creates a mental picture that everything must fit into irrespective of what is true. Sadly, when people perceive that no matter what they do, you'll still pass a negative judgment on them, they become antagonistic against you which will further confirm your assertion of who they are.
Some notorious people are those who would have been the nicest if only they were properly treated with love and endurance.
The nicest people in the world are not those who sweet talk you into believing they are nice. Their actions are crude sometimes and may not be a true reflection of their innermost being. They may have the wrong choice of words. From a far, you can never tell who they really are. They are often misjudged. At some point, they become frustrated because other people don't understand them and they begin to live a life of isolation which further complicate issues for those around them.
Most of those who are refined in their attitudes of being nice are doing it for personal reasons. It happens even here on steemit. Some are only nice to whales and dolphins.... Some extend it to minnows because they hope minnows will grow some day and become valuable to them.
The people I value most are those who treat you right even when they know you can never return the favour. They offer help to strangers they may never see again. They work behind the scenes for the good of others without much publicity..... They do what they do not because they expect a payback today or tomorrow, but because they desire to do good.
Conclusion
I'll conclude with the story of Emeka and Chima.
Chima and Emeka were very close friends until they had a quarrel. For two days, they didn't communicate with each other. The third day, Emeka became uncomfortable with the malice and he sought for a means to make up with his friend.
On that fateful day, he was standing outside when Chima came back from work, as he walked towards the door, Emeka picked an object and threw it at him, unfortunately for him, the object landed on Chima's eye and caused a terrible accident. That act has kept them apart until date. Emeka begged to be heard, but no one gave him a listening ear. Chima now sees him as someone who could hurt him. Everyone judged him to be a wicked person that wanted to make his friend blind only because they had a quarrel. Emeka never meant to hurt his friend, all he wanted to do was to playfully break the silence between them, but everything turned out bad and no one believes his true intentions.
Many a time, the things we see were not intended the way we see them.
Be slow to judge even when you have enough evidence to pass judgements.
This world would have been a better place if we learn to love more, forgive more and judge less.
All images are from imgur.com
THANK YOU FOR READING
I READ AND APPRECIATE ALL COMMENTS
IF YOU LIKE MY ACTIVITIES HERE AND WILL LOVE TO SUPPORT ME, PLEASE UPVOTE, RESTEEM AND COMMENT.
WOULD YOU LIKE TO TIP ME? I WILL HUMBLY APPRECIATE IT.
Steem
@ogoowinner
Etherum
0x007BEd911D2D1a9a37D6507347287D52521FB689
Bitcoin
19W2Y9oi8NPDEgGYe3oJ3Qf7Kx7am8noXp
