Releasing Negative Emotions

Almost everybody was dealing with Anxiety, Depression or any other negative emotion in the past. But some people live with those feelings for months, years or even for their entire life!

Some will try finding a cure for those feeling by speaking to professionals, taking prescription drugs or by reading and watching self-help material - those things work, but not always. Other people just decide to live with it and give up on their emotional freedom and relaxation.

While I am not a psychologist or a professional in any way, I will try to give you a new perspective on those states and how to you could free yourself from the emotions that hunt you. But I will have to ask you to be open-minded and even if you don't agree with whats written try to find the logic behind it.

Negative Emotions

Anxiety, stress, depression... call it whatever you want, but what we know about those feelings? Well... we know they feel bad, like pain! Maybe not even like, we could call them emotional pain. So let's have a look at pain.

Why do we feel pain? let's think in a logical way about the purpose of pain. If we try touching hot metal we would get a burned and our skin will be damaged, most importantly we will feel pain. It doesn't feel nice but now we will know not to touch that metal again. So the purpose of pain is to warn us about dangers to our body and also to protect us from possible damage by avoiding pain.

Let's say those negative emotions we talked about are similar to pain. What would our brain try to tell us? Is it trying to warn us about dangers? Maybe it's trying to protect us from future risk? If we look at it from an evolutionary point of view we all know that everything our brain and body does has a survival purpose.

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Learn The Lesson

Now that we accepted that our emotions serve some purpose to protect us from something - we can try and find what is the thing our brain is warning us about. What possibly could this kind of feeling prevent?

If we take for example trauma, a person would go through horrible stuff, he will observe a lot of information coming to his mind through his senses. This is new information for the mind and since our mind usually reacts accordingly our past knowledge and memories, it wouldn't know how to process it effectively.

Fast forward later, our brain still has this memory he is uncertain about! Something bad happened to you and maybe even your survival was at risk. Your brain is now aware of a certain danger and he wants to prevent it from happening again, so it will shoot this warning signals again and again in a form of anxiety (or another negative feeling). And it won't stop until it feels safe knowing that it won't happen again!

But how can we turn off this warning sign and let our brain feel safe again? - By learning the lesson and letting your mind prosses it! If there's an unanswered question it won't feel right until you check the answer and have the basic idea about it, what if the question perceived as a survival uncertainty?

Most people will avoid thinking about the memory since it's causing those negative feelings we hate soo much, they run from whats causing their problems. But in that case, you should go back to the memory, relive it in your mind, feel it again and try to understand what went wrong and which lessons you can take from it. Let your mind fully prosses the information which sitting there for years waiting to be processed. Try answering the questions.

You are right... it is probably not your fault, but your unconscious mind isn't that smart. It just wants to make sure that it won't happen again. It wants to make sure that you will be safe, and as long as you ignore that, it will keep nagging you.

Once you learned the lessons from it, once you have a new perspective on what happened. With new ideas in mind about what you could and couldn't do, why it happened and what you could do to avoid it in the future - you might notice that the negative feelings are washing away.