Anyone who wants to succeed in life and in business should know how to make friends and make a good impression on others, even in this decade where the physical contact and the conventional talks face to face already present indications which are disappearing or changing the way we do business and we relate to other people.
While that happens it invite you to improve your language with other people. Because by now the verbal and non-verbal as is the way in which we communicate most of the humans
RULE 1. Sincerely interested in others.
More friends can win in two months if interested one in others, that they would win in two years if others are interested in one. The individual who is not interested in their peers who have the greatest difficulties in life and cause major injuries to others. All human failures arise from those individuals. For years I have worried about my friends birthdays. The interest, which is the same as everything else in human relations, must be sincere.
RULE 2. Smile.
The actions say more than the words, and a smile Express: "I like you." It gives me happiness. Both see it I'm glad". I speak of a true smile, that cheerful heart, come inside, it's worth good price in the market. Do you enjoy when you are with people, if you expect others to pass it well when they are with you. If you are alone, whistle or hum or sing. Proceed as if you were happy and that will contribute to making you happy. Everyone seeks happiness, and there is a safe means to find it. It is to control our thoughts. The happiness not depends of conditions external, depends of conditions internal. It is not what we have or what we are or where we are or what we do, anything like that, it makes us happy or unhappy. It is what we think about all this. "Almost all the people are as happy as will decide to be it" Abraham Lincoln. "The man whose face smile should not open a store" Chinese proverb. The value of a smile: don't cost nothing, but creates much. Enriches to those who receive, without impoverishing to who Dan. It happens in a blink of eyes, and at times his memory lasts forever. Nobody is so rich that can pass is without it, and nobody so poor that not can enrich by its benefits. Creates happiness in the home, encourages good will in business is the password of the friends. It is rest to the weary, light for those disappointed, sunshine to the sad, and the best antidote to the concerns. But it cannot be purchased, ordered, borrowed or stolen, because it is something that does not surrender benefit to anyone unless it is provided for free and spontaneous. Because no one needs a smile as one whom none give is not.
RULE 3. Call to the people by their name
Remember that for any person, his name is the sound more sweet and important in any language. Jim Farley discovered at the beginning of its life to the common men are more interested in its name to all others of the Earth. Make the effort to learn the first name (pay attention). The name puts aside the individual; makes it unique among all the others. The information we, or the question that we do, takes a special importance when we add the name of our partner.
RULE 4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
You did think that I was a good talkative when, in fact, not had been more than a good listener. "The person who only speaks, thinks only of itself, the person who only thinks of itself lacks all education" Dr. Nicholas Murray Butler. Remember that the person with whom you speak is a hundred times more interested in itself and in its needs and their problems than in you and your problems.
RULE 5. Always talk of what interests others.
Talk in terms of the interests of the other person is beneficial for them two parts.
RULE 6. Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.
What's in it that you can honestly admire? Always treat the other person feel important. "Get to the neighbor that you want that the neighbor you do to you". Jesus of Nazareth. We all want the approval of all those with whom it comes into contact. We want to recognize our merits. We want to have the feeling of our importance in their small world. We do not want to listen to cheap flattery, without sincerity, but we look forward to sincere appreciation. So that a person's life will change completely can rely that someone makes her feel important. Talk to the people themselves and they will listen for hours.
These are the rules to make friends and please him to other people, I hope that have been helpful to remember that nothing in this life is absolute only mathematics however it can become a mess and be interpreted in a bad way, use these techniques and result vera always remember honest is impossible to pretend that we don't feel.
Source: how to win friends and influence people (DANIEL CARNEGUIE)