The world is made up of different individual desiring, demanding, wanting or needing one thing or the other. What is generally seen are people too expectant or dependent on someone, an event or outcome. The aftermath of expectation can lead to frustration or heavy disappointment. Individuals tend to fail to embrace the result of their actions; you need to suck it up, whine less about it, and move from complaining. The reality is that disappointment is inevitable.
The goal of this post is to challenge you to set standard for yourself rather than expecting. Standard shows psychic revelation of how things are meant to be while expectation creates a deluge picture in our head on how things are supposed to be. Let’s look at it in an individual life, a child that has been giving whatever he needs right from birth may never see the need to do things in his own terms but rather expecting thing to be done for him.
Expectation leads to dependency while standard create value for you, leads to discipline and setting of principles. My study shows that an individual with high expectation is less likely to take risk because they are more likely to venture into things with high assurance but an individual with high standard is more likely to learn and seek for improvement.
Here are the effects of expecting too much which affect happiness;
Frustration
Expectation feeds frustration, it is unhealthy attachment to people, things and outcomes we wish we could control, but don’t know how to.
There is a guy living in the area of my family house, while we were growing, he used to have the most expensive things among us. He was the first to drive a car in our clique. His parent practically got him anything he wanted. After graduating from Covenant University, a very expensive private university in Nigeria, His father loss his job. The father could not avoid getting is dear child everything he wanted, at one instance the boy unauthorized, sold his father’s car to meet is expensive live style.
Disappointment
If you critically look at why ladies belief all guys are wicked and deceitful, it because women naturally are dependent on men or their parents. They are generally in search for a guy willing to invest his cash and time on them. Once the guys start paying less attention to them, their heart breaks and some ladies take the failure of a relationship to generalize all men.
The truth is expecting nothing from someone makes you never disappointed. Set standard for yourself in giving the best to whatever you do, if it does not work out, learn and apply in your next trial.
Gratitude
Expectation on something or someone for a thing to be done is very risky. The issue with gratitude and gratefulness is that you either expect it to be done or expecting more which may neglect you seeing the sacrifice and effort towards it.
Self-actualization and fulfillment
You can’t expect everyone to have the same dedication as you.
The fact remains, people are people, everyone is generally rational and act on best self-interest.
Tying the outcome of any event to someone might affect your personal desired result. What you have to decide is how things are to be? Attract what is needed to achieve that, know nothing is guaranteed but don’t be afraid to give all you effort toward attaining that.
To conclude this article, everyone goes about expecting, assuming, asking, demanding and unnecessarily pressuring themselves to do things uncalled for. If something is going to happen, it will regardless of the time it will take. Don’t go around discussing what a good person should be. Just be one!!!.